I came across a question about condoms, so I wanted to ask about my situation too.
This content is machine-translated.
I was told to bring condoms when meeting a male supporter I was introduced to through this site.
The other men I meet buy and bring them every time.
I told him I didn’t want to keep condoms at home, but he wouldn’t accept that, saying he couldn’t take them home either, so I ended up preparing them every time.
I do think it would be wasteful, but if he can’t take the leftovers home, I feel like he could just throw them away and buy new ones each time. Are there quite a few male supporters who expect women to bring condoms?
I honestly can’t understand the mindset of making someone else prepare something that he wants to use himself. Is this considered normal from a male supporter’s perspective?
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I’m not sure what counts as “normal,” but I believe carrying condoms is basic etiquette for men. I’ve never heard of expecting the woman to provide them—this is honestly the first time I’ve heard of it. I have heard of wives buying condoms for married couples, though. (lol)
That said, if you don’t bring any, he may try to claim that it’s your responsibility because you didn’t prepare them and pressure you to go without one. If you plan to continue seeing him, it’s probably safest for you to bring your own.
It must be difficult dating a man who isn’t exactly typical.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Meg, a female member.
I suppose there are people like that, too. It may not be the norm, but ultimately, you have to protect yourself.
That said, are you seeing someone who won’t even listen to your opinions?
You’ve been putting up with a lot.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Basil, a male member.
Of course, I normally provide the condoms myself.
However, there was one time when I happened not to bring any. Just as I was about to leave the office, something urgent came up, and I was so worried about being late that I forgot to buy them. I only realized we didn’t have any partway through.
Luckily, she was okay with going without one on her “safe days” as long as I didn’t finish inside. Still, I told her, “I might forget sometimes, so just to be safe, you should keep some on hand too.”
That said, I haven’t forgotten since then, so I’ve never had to check whether she had any or rely on her supply.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
This is the first time I’ve heard of making someone bring their own, but I think it’s a thousand times better than being told, “I don’t have one, so let’s go without.”
Marika
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this too.
Thanks for your question.
I don’t think it’s common for women to be expected to provide condoms. If anything, I’d say hardly anyone does.
That said, considering that some people may try to do it without one, and that they’ll use it if you provide one, perhaps you could simply change your perspective and prepare them yourself.
But if you truly can’t put up with it, you should break things off. You should carefully think about which option is best for you.
It may help to consider the situation as a whole—for example, whether they’re otherwise a good person aside from this issue.
It’s hard to find someone who’s perfect. You could keep seeing them for now and break things off if you find someone better.
> I still wonder where my semen went. It remains a mystery to this day.
Maybe she liked you so much that she was secretly trying to have a child with you...
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
It may not be common, but apparently some men do ask women to book hotels for them, so I suppose there are men who ask women to handle those sorts of little details.
To me, you’re also difficult to understand for continuing an arrangement with someone you find difficult to understand. If you can’t accept it, wouldn’t it be simpler not to continue seeing him?
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
