I’m Fuu, a columnist.
I lose my erection too. These days, I rely exclusively on ED medication.
It’s awkward, isn’t it?
When someone says things like, “Can’t you get it up with me anymore?” or “Have you stopped liking me?” a chicken-hearted person like Fuu feels even more pressure and loses it all the more.
Even with someone like me, if I lose my erection, she can naturally snuggle up, hug me, and gently caress me down there. Once I start to perk up a little, oral sex brings me back.
The key is to be natural and gentle so he doesn’t feel pressured. If you get too aggressive, it might not work. Don’t interrogate your boyfriend—just show him affection and be gentle!
As for what you can do, you might have him abstain for a little while, then help him regain his confidence by giving him the kind of play, gestures, movements, positions, cosplay, or hairstyle he likes.
If that still doesn’t satisfy you, don’t just use an app—sign up with Universe instead（笑）. We’ll do our best to match you with kind papas who love sex and will make sure you’re satisfied!
By the way, Fuu is a two-round kind of guy.
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here with an answer as well.
Thank you for your questions.
> Does that mean age doesn’t matter?
I’m not entirely sure, but if he’s in his 30s, it seems possible. I also think it can happen when someone is simply a little tired.
> Even when I try my best, it doesn’t work, and things become even more awkward afterward.
If you’re doing your best, I think your boyfriend understands that, so you probably don’t need to worry.
> Wouldn’t it hurt him if I told him the name of the medication I often see mentioned here?
Since you’re both aware that he loses his erection during sex, I don’t think it would necessarily hurt him. However, some people don’t like having these things pointed out to them, so it’s difficult to say. Still, since you’re considering finding a friend with benefits, I think you should bring it up.
As for how to phrase it, maybe something like:
“I heard it can have amazing effects when younger people use it. Why don’t you try it and see what happens? I’d like to see too.”
> I’m sure I’ll continue to have a fairly strong sex drive, so I don’t think I’ll be able to stay satisfied.
If you already understand yourself that well, I think it would be fine to look for a boyfriend who can satisfy you more.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I also started losing my erection during sex in my thirties, so I don’t think it’s necessarily age-related. That means I understand how it feels.
I’d appreciate it if he made an effort. That said, he’ll probably find medication on his own, so I don’t think you need to mention it.
You can still have enjoyable sex without penetration. Since I was in my twenties, I’ve made it a point to bring my partner to climax before penetration. However, that doesn’t work for women who prefer to climax through penetration, so I’m not very compatible with them.
