Do papas prefer being spoken to casually or politely?

Maezawa, the CEO, will answer as well. Thank you for your question. I think it’s best to stick with polite language until the other person says it’s okay to speak casually.

I’m column writer Fuu. In my experience, there seems to be a difference between speaking casually with affection and consideration for the other person, and speaking casually in a condescending or mocking way. Casual speech feels comfortable when it comes from genuine consideration. It also makes you feel closer to each other, so it doesn’t feel awkward. But if a girl is treating the relationship as purely transactional, casual speech can be difficult—it may come across as harsh. My impression is that many girls in transactional relationships don’t use casual speech. Papas who are business owners, successful in life, or highly experienced have probably developed a strong instinct for reading people’s true feelings, so they can tell most of the time. I think it depends on the questioner’s approach to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). If you genuinely like your papa as a person, using casual speech shouldn’t feel awkward. In fact, it may help you grow closer on a human level and lead to a better relationship. But if you’re keeping things strictly transactional because of the money, I personally think it’s safest to use polite speech.

I’m Hikouki, a male member. I’ve never really thought about which one… I wonder which the girls prefer? I don’t like overly polite speech, but I don’t like being too casual either. I prefer it to feel completely natural—not all敬語 or all casual, just a conversation that flows naturally. The most important thing is to keep the same vibe you normally would. And honestly, I don’t like being asked to choose between the two—or having to bring it up myself.

I’m in Seattle. Personally, I prefer it when we speak casually from the very beginning. Why not ask him around the second meeting?

I’m Kazu, a male member. Everyone has different preferences, so using casual speech is only appropriate if the other person asks you to. If someone speaks casually without being asked, I tend to wonder whether they received much of an education.