I’ve heard that a woman may be labeled a complainer if she writes something emotional in her review. How much is considered acceptable?

I’m Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu, and I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. > Or would it be okay to add something like “I was really upset”? I think something along those lines should be fine. But if it turns into something like, “I’m angry and can’t forgive him. Please ban him,” you might be treated as a complainer. For this particular case, I think it would be fine to write something like: “He promised an allowance of 70,000 yen, but in the end I only received 50,000 yen. (← fact) After losing interest three times, he eventually said the condom size at the love hotel didn’t fit and reduced my allowance. I couldn’t go through with it to the end. (← fact) If this is allowed, it seems like someone could promise to pay an allowance and then simply get away without paying at all. (← personal opinion) It felt no different from fraud. (← personal opinion) It’s disappointing that there are men like this. (← personal opinion)” Of course, when asked whether they may contact the other party to confirm the details, select “Yes.” Otherwise, they won’t be able to verify the facts. Even so, not paying the agreed amount is just awful. I really wish people like that would disappear. Also, you should make sure to include the other person’s name in the feedback text. I believe feedback is posted automatically, so the person’s name will be publicly visible temporarily, until staff notice it. (笑) Though, I apologize if they’ve changed it back to manual approval after checking for problematic content.

I’m date◎yume, a male member. If it’s about the level of detail in the post this time, I think that should be fine. The club will likely understand the gist as well. Rather than worrying too much about being seen as a complainer, I think it’s best to simply report the key points concisely.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’m sorry—you really went through a terrible experience. This is just my personal opinion, but I think you could send them everything from “The man I went on my first date with the other day…” through “…I don’t think he was gentlemanly at all, and I don’t want other women to go through the same thing, so I’m thinking of sending in a survey.” I didn’t find your question hysterical at all. I think it might come across as a complaint if, in addition to your question, you wrote things like, “Please forcibly remove this man from the club,” “Please summon the male member and lecture him on my behalf,” or “Please collect the amount he withheld from me.” You don’t need to explicitly write that you’re angry. It’s the kind of story that most people would find infuriating anyway. Whenever I send feedback about something that disappointed me, I add, “This isn’t a complaint; it’s simply feedback.” I hope this helps. P.S. After saving this, I realized I’m not the person the questioner wanted an answer from. Since I’d already written it, I’ll leave it here.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. When it comes to relationships between men and women—or anything else, for that matter—it’s rarely the case that only one side is at fault, so I think it’s best to stick to the facts. Whether you’re a woman or a man, you should be careful about making complaints. If a man complains, he may immediately be labeled as someone to watch out for; women may be viewed that way too. Wouldn’t it be enough just to say that the allowance was reduced? If a man loses interest more than once, that would certainly be very discourteous and unacceptable… But even then, various factors such as compatibility and how each person responded are involved, so only the two people themselves know who was at fault—or whether either of them was at fault at all. If you share the details, both the man and the woman will end up looking bad. Since the account includes some potentially damaging information for both sides, the staff may no longer be able to recommend either of you.