This is Uehara from the staff.
I can’t say whether telling him will make a difference, but keeping it to yourself may become stressful, so I think you should gently tell your papa (a male supporter) that you’re worried because his snoring is really loud.
Kida, the representative, will answer as well.
Snoring… are you perhaps talking about me?
If I were a papa, it might go something like this:
Questioner: “Hey, papa, dinner last night was wonderful. And afterward, too. I’m really happy I got to be with you.”
Papa: “I’m glad you enjoyed it so much. Then, how about one more this morning—”
Questioner: “But papa, I’m worried. Aren’t you sleep-deprived? You must be tired. Your snoring was really loud while you were asleep. According to my friend Marika, apparently severe snoring can lead to an early death. I don’t want you to die, papa!”
Papa: “Haha, I’m not going to die. Although, I suppose there’s always a chance. So, before I die, how about one more—”
Questioner: “Papa, listen seriously. You’re busy with work and under a lot of pressure, and I’m worried about you.”
Papa: “Enough already—just let me do it.”
That’s the scenario I imagine.
Here’s what I recommend—this is what I would want someone to do for me:
- Turn papa onto his side when he starts snoring.
- Put a Breathe Right strip on his nose, purchased in advance.
- Turn him face-down.
- Press a pillow against his nose so he has to breathe through his mouth.
- If none of that works, grab a blanket and sleep on the sofa.
Papa is unconscious during all of this, so anything goes—as long as he doesn’t die.
Papa (me) finds it extremely troublesome when someone tells him what to do. I’m sure that’s why you’re asking here instead of asking him directly.
So, it’s fine to mention the snoring to papa, but I don’t think trying to make him do something about it is a good strategy.
Papa will just look for his next girlfriend who doesn’t mind snoring.
Maezawa from the president’s office here.
Thank you for your question.
Since he’s asleep when it happens, he may not even realize it unless someone tells him. There’s also a chance he doesn’t know at all.
So it would probably be best to let him know, but telling him won’t necessarily mean he can consciously stop snoring.
Still, if he remains unaware, he won’t understand that it’s bothering you. I think you should tell him gently and tactfully.
The other issue is what to do when you stay overnight. If it’s a regular hotel, you could ask him to book another room and say something like:
“I’ll stay in the same room until you fall asleep, so don’t worry. When it’s time for me to sleep, I’ll go to the other room. Just message me on my phone in the morning and I’ll come back.”
Something along those lines might work.
I’m Gaku, a male member.
If it’s due to being overweight or having a nasal problem, it may be treatable. Otherwise, telling your papa probably won’t make it stop.
If it’s causing you distress, I think the most realistic compromises would be to be honest with him and get a twin room so you can sleep in separate beds, or use noise-canceling earplugs or earbuds.
