When someone asks me, “How long have you been registered? How many offers do you get? Are you currently seeing anyone?” what would be the best way to respond?
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In reality, I’ve been registered for two years. I get new offers every now and then, and there are a few people I meet about once every month or two.
However, when I tell people that, some of them visibly react negatively, so I’m wondering if I should keep it to myself.
It depends on the person.
I’m honest with people who are okay with me seeing others—or even happy about it. But with the so-called pretend-romance types, the seriously-in-love types, or those who want it to be just you and me, I tell them they’re the only one.
For example, I might say I took a break after finding someone, but started receiving offers again because we recently broke up.
Or I might say, “I do get offers—otherwise I’d look like an unpopular woman—but we just part ways after dinner, and you’re the only one who’s come back to my place.”
But if you’ve been doing this for two years, shouldn’t you have learned that much by now?
I’ve been a member for about the same amount of time as you.
Marika
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
As for when you registered, there’s a chance it could come to light somehow, so I think it’s best either to be honest or to keep it vague, saying something like:
“It’s been a while since I registered. How long have you been registered?”
As for how many offers you receive, you could also be vague and mix in a small lie, such as:
“I was actually taking a break until recently, so I haven’t had that many offers.”
Or you could say:
“That’s something I’d rather talk about once we’ve gotten to know each other better…”
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
It depends on the man.
Some men are the kind you’re better off being honest with if you want to build a good relationship, while with others, it’s better to keep certain things to yourself. Can’t you usually get a feel for which is which just by talking to them?
I think I probably can.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I use dating clubs because I find playing games tiresome, so I appreciate it when people are upfront with me.
I wonder why they react so negatively. Maybe it’s because the asker’s arrangements are fairly straightforward?
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