If my face is puffy on the day of a date, I suddenly don’t feel like going. Would you still go on a date with a puffy face?

Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer this one as well. Thank you for your question. Even if your face is puffy, men generally don’t suddenly want to break things off or think you look unattractive. That’s because they’ve already judged those things before entering into a relationship with you. So you really shouldn’t worry about it at all. No matter what expression you have, men are judging you based on your usual appearance, so being able to see you is what matters most. A last-minute cancellation is far more serious. That includes telling him the day before that you can’t make it tomorrow. It’s better than saying it on the day, but it’s still tough. > Men don’t notice the things you want them to notice, but they immediately notice acne or whether you’ve gained weight. Why? Because they’re oblivious, I suppose. (Laughs) If it’s something you want them to notice—like a slight change in your hairstyle—they may not realize it. Maybe they’re mainly looking at the basic features of your face. With acne, something new has appeared where there wasn’t anything before, and since they’re basically looking at your face, they just happen to notice the difference. I think moles being noticed fall into the same category. As for gaining weight, I feel they only notice because you get undressed. I wonder if they can tell when you’re wearing clothes? They’d probably notice if you gained around 10 kg, but I’m not sure how many men could tell the difference with just 1 or 2 kg. That said, they may notice when you’re undressed.

You’re far more likely to get dropped for canceling at the last minute just because you’re a little puffy. Try thinking about how you can look your best for the date—avoid eating too much salt, don’t oversleep, stretch, and get some moderate exercise so you don’t get swollen. I had terrible acne when I was younger too, so I understand that sometimes it can’t be helped and that breaking out can really get you down. But there are many good medications available now. I recommend getting proper treatment from a dermatologist. Also, you’re letting every offhand comment from older men hurt you way too much. You need to develop a thicker skin. Marika

I’m Kazu, a male member who would still like you to come on a date even if your face is puffy. Of course, if you’re feeling unwell, that’s different. But if it’s just a little puffiness, I’d prefer you not worry about it and come anyway. I’m sorry to hear that some people actually comment on things like breakouts or whether someone has gained or lost weight. I wouldn’t cut someone off just because they looked puffy, but I probably would if they didn’t seem genuinely interested in meeting me. A penis is a penis, after all.

I’m in Seattle. I want to be a penis forever. I think he means that he finds your acne and weight gain cute, but he’s probably just a papa (a male supporter) who isn’t good with words. Being a little chubby is cute, but he doesn’t have to say it out loud. Once you get comfortable with someone, even their puffy face or slightly sloppy side can seem cute. It makes you feel like they’re really comfortable around you. Women often have days when they aren’t feeling well, but I think people who cancel at the last minute are the most likely to get cut loose. You sound a little emotionally unwell. Psychosomatic clinics tend to be busy, so you should book an appointment online as soon as possible.