Sorry to ask for advice for the third time. A papa (a male supporter) I was seeing for two years contacted me saying he wanted to meet again, but then told me there would be no travel expenses.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here, answering as well. Thank you for your question. I feel like Mac’s wording is good. > “He told me he didn’t understand why getting transportation money would make me feel less guilty toward my boyfriend.” You could say: “After thinking it over, I realized you were right. I feel bad about it because of my boyfriend, so I can’t see you anymore.” That might work too. > “What’s wrong with you going out for a meal with me when you’re dating someone who has no intention of marrying you?” Maybe something like: “It’s not about whether it’s right or wrong. I realized I can’t do this because I have feelings for my boyfriend. I won’t be able to see you anymore.”

I’m Taro, a male member. I’m glad you found my answer helpful, but you really don’t understand the basics of negotiation. Why would you set up an appointment when you haven’t agreed on the terms? You need to use agreeing on the schedule as leverage to get them to accept your terms. And giving the other person information they can use against you is the worst thing you could do. I thought you could handle this a little better, but this was completely unexpected. People who are careless like this aren’t cut out for this. You should get out while you can, or you’ll get hurt. I think Mac’s draft is basically fine. Just add a few words thanking the other person. Something along the lines of, “I’m truly grateful for what you did for me back then. Thank you very much.” Keep it strictly in the past tense. Absolutely do not say things like, “I was happy to hear from you again after such a long time.” The goal is to bring things to a graceful close as a beautiful story from the past, so don’t add anything unnecessary. After sending the message, don’t block them or delete the chat history. When you don’t know how the other person may react, it’s important to stay alert. However, even if they reply, absolutely do not mark the message as read. If they continue sending LINE messages in a stalker-like manner and the content starts becoming disturbing, consult the police or the agency. Don’t even think about trying to deal with it yourself.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Send a one-sided cancellation message, then block him. You may feel uneasy for a while, but hang in there and try to endure it.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. > https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/5882 I think it would’ve been obvious if you’d given it a little thought, but you really shouldn’t resort to overly underhanded tactics. That said, it looks like you’ll have no choice but to use another underhanded tactic this time. I also think, “I’m sorry, but I’m not feeling well,” would be a good excuse.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’m with Mac on this one. Mac was right. The man turned out to be even more sleazy than expected, and you wanted 10,000 yen too, so it couldn’t really be helped.

I’m Kamihikoki, a male member. Just message them that morning saying you’re not feeling well, and don’t contact them again until then. You don’t need to meet anyone other than the people you choose to contact. If a man unilaterally imposes his terms, as in the first question, he’s unpleasant from the outset and best avoided. Whether the allowance is “generous” is for the person receiving it to decide, and regardless of gender, it isn’t pleasant to have someone say that upfront.