Do you sleep with younger women because you want to feel that you’re still desirable as a man?

Some men say it’s been years since they last had sex with a woman. From their perspective, simply being able to have sex with a woman makes them feel, “I’ve still got it.” Whether she agreed because she wanted the money is beside the point. I think it makes sense if you understand “I can still charm a woman and have her agree to it” and “I can still have sex—and ejaculate” as two different meanings of “I’ve still got it.” Marika To add to that, it’s not as though they have sex with me, a woman in her mid-40s, and think they can still sleep with young women. But whenever they manage a second round, they all say in unison, “I’ve still got it.” Couldn’t this simply be their way of confirming that they’re still physically young? What do you think?

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here with an answer as well. Thank you for your question. > Even men who would be impossible to be with for no money at all may become bearable if you’re paid, I think that’s the reality. I don’t think it’s that simple, because there are times when you still don’t want to be with someone even if you’re paid. You may be unable to refuse and end up being intimate with him just once, but then decide you don’t want to do it again. From the man’s perspective, he may suddenly stop hearing from you and wonder what happened. It’s a difficult world. > My papa often says things like, “I can still perform.” He may be referring to his physical stamina. It could mean that he’s wondering whether he’s still capable in that regard, or simply that he still has the stamina for it. I don’t know which meaning he intends, but there’s no point in the questioner getting worked up over it. You could probably just agree and say, “You’ve still got it.” > Doesn’t that mean he’s competing based solely on his appeal as a man? His money is part of his appeal, too. In the first place, anyone who thinks he can compete with younger men is more likely to be a person to avoid. He doesn’t understand himself. Knowledge, experience, money—all of what a person possesses contributes to their appeal. So what would be the point of competing based on physicality alone?

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. What you’re saying is perfectly reasonable and exactly right. That’s why papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t included in my dating history. Still, the club offers benefits and enjoyment that go beyond both romance and my own approach to papa-katsu. Please take “I’m still capable” as meaning that it fulfills my sense of satisfaction as a man.

I’m Kazu, a male member, and I sometimes feel that women are actually more hung up on being “young.” I have sex not to prove to myself that I can still perform as a man, but because I want to feel good, reach orgasm, and become closer to someone. There are women out there who date older men without receiving an allowance, but meeting someone like that usually takes a lot of effort, such as going to bars, and dating them requires considerable care. It’s not as easy as receiving an offer through a dating club. I don’t have the motivation to put in that kind of effort, so I use dating clubs to skip the difficulties with money. I think that man saying, “I can still perform,” is just something he tells himself. There’s no need for you to feel uneasy about it.