I’m a female member. After reading the question “Devotion and service on the first meeting…” (https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/5875), I realized I had felt the same way, so I wanted to ask something.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. Thank you for your question. > Even with money involved, I’d still feel uncomfortable with things like deep kissing, oral sex, 69, or hand jobs on the first day. I get the impression that most men are already thinking about these things from the first day. Of course, it varies from person to person. So, from the perspective of what men are looking for, I think it’s safe to assume that more men want activities within the range of vanilla intimacy. That said, many men would probably understand if you explained that you’d rather wait until you’ve gotten to know each other better. So I think it’s important to communicate that clearly. > The things I was told on the first day that made me think, “Absolutely not!” were “Lick inside my ear” and “I’ve got a pearl implant.” Even if they seem normal to the person saying them, I agree that these aren’t exactly standard requests, so I think it’s perfectly natural to feel that way. > If he asks for anything else, I’ll do my best with a smile. If we’re compatible, I’m generally fine with almost anything after the next meeting. That sounds good. I get the feeling that more men would want to see you again after that.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. That’s a good question. > On the first day, I’d personally prefer to keep things to regular kissing, using fingers, and penetration. It’s only a personal preference, though, so if she requests anything else, I’ll do my best with a smile. You can really get a sense of the person asking this question. I don’t think there’s any need to rush things from the very beginning. These days, cars don’t really idle, but if you want to take good care of one, you naturally want to let the engine warm up before stepping on the gas. There’s no need to push yourself—just enjoy the relationship at your own pace.

I’m Kazu, a male member. This is a highly personal topic. In my case, the only thing I consider essential is oral sex. If she won’t do that, then to me it isn’t an adult relationship (intimate), so I’d feel somewhat misled and probably end things there. So far, I’ve never been refused oral sex, either in ordinary relationships or through a dating club. The only women who have ever told me they wouldn’t do it were jaded women I met through an online dating site for compensated dating—women who seemed to be seeing about five men a day and had an unpleasant odor down there. That said, if she only gives me oral sex, then I’m the only one receiving, so I feel penetration would probably be necessary as well. For penetration, I need to engage in foreplay, and since it wouldn’t be fair to ask only for oral sex, I perform oral sex on her too. Some women dislike having their clitoris stimulated with fingers, so I start with gentler tongue-based foreplay. If she smells bad down there, licking her is difficult, and more than anything, I’m afraid of STIs, so I don’t do it. Some women also don’t like fingers being inserted, so I generally don’t do that. I only insert my fingers when she encourages me to. At the first meeting, there’s no way I have feelings for her yet, so I don’t particularly want to kiss or make out, and I don’t initiate it. If our faces get close and she makes a kissing face, I’ll give her a brief kiss just to reciprocate and see how she reacts. I don’t like handjobs because unless the woman has good technique, she won’t apply the right amount of pressure. The only women who have done that to me were sex workers or jaded compensated-dating partners I met through online dating sites. Both times, they were far too rough, and my penis swelled afterward, so I absolutely hated it. As Taro said, I suppose this is what compatibility comes down to.

I’m Taro, a male member. I feel like there’s probably quite a range depending on the person. Some women are completely passive, while others use techniques from the very first meeting like a professional sex worker. I think compatibility includes that kind of intimate etiquette, too.

I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.” > For the first day, I think I’d prefer just regular kissing, fingering, and penetration. It’s nice to get aroused by that natural kind of atmosphere. I think that alone is more than enough. Men can enjoy themselves plenty that way, too. In fact, I think you need to be considerate enough to satisfy your partner so thoroughly that you can feel satisfied yourself with just that—more through attentiveness than technique. If you’re a club member, I’d like you to explore how to make your partner say, “That was incredibly good,” not simply because she climaxed or felt good, but because the overall balance was ideal—leaving her feeling satisfied, comfortable, and free of pressure. Also, oral sex, 69, handjobs, and cunnilingus are all things you can get as much as you want at a sex-work establishment. So I feel it’s more important to focus on an experience that doesn’t rely on those things, especially when compatibility is involved. If you feel attracted to being with a woman and sense that you’re compatible, and can properly convey that through your actions, I think she’ll be happy with everything.