Why are there so many men who expect devotion and service from the very first meeting?

Among the many women out there, some—unlike you—know how to act devoted and accommodating without immediately throwing a tantrum. And it’s not necessarily because they’re doing it reluctantly, either. At that point, perhaps it’s no longer merely an act. A woman like that may not get many offers unless she’s exceptionally beautiful, but once she finds a papa, she’ll probably hold on to his affection. In the long run, she may even be happier with a stable income than you are with your pretty face. There’s no good in forcing yourself to endure things you feel you can’t handle. Please find a man you genuinely click with and let him treat you well. Marika

I’m Meg, a female member. I do agree that it’s not really fair to expect professional-level skills or reactions. But if the woman is devoted and goes out of her way to please him from the very beginning, wouldn’t the man think, “She’s doing so much for me… What a sweet girl! I’m going to make this official!”? Of course, that assumes he’s the kind of man who makes her feel that way.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. Thank you for your question. As you said, men tend to become overconfident. I think many men end up thinking, “I’m still popular, so she’ll see me even if I offer only a small allowance.” Even when it’s not that extreme, some men seem to think, “I gave her a generous allowance, so she should be more devoted to me.” However, to make a woman see dollar signs, you’d probably have to offer something like a million yen for a single meeting. I think this is also the flip side of what you said: “I can understand if he’s the kind of man who can make a woman fall for him at first sight.” In other words, if you offer a million yen or so, there may be women who fall in love with the money at first sight. And if you pay that much, I imagine some women would become devoted to you for the money. But if it’s only somewhat more than usual, I don’t think you can expect that level of devotion. Some women might even take offense and think, “Are you trying to buy me with money?” When you look at it that way, it’s only natural that the allowance should exceed what the other person is hoping for. On top of that, you also need to build a relationship so that she comes to think, “I want to do my best for him and be kind to him.” I don’t think that many women are looking for professional-level skills, but since there are plenty of men who think, “I’m paying, so she should do more,” men should be a little more humble.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think you’re absolutely right. In my view, people who expect devotion from someone they’ve just met are insensitive to other people’s feelings. You could also say they overestimate the power of money. Money may be able to influence someone’s feelings to a certain extent, but it can’t buy them. By the way, I don’t think you can get genuine devotion or thoughtfulness from a sex-work establishment. Since it’s a job, they’ll provide the service you’re paying for, but I think that’s completely different from devotion or genuine care. So even if you go to one, you won’t get that kind of devotion. It seems the difference between sex work and dating is difficult for women to understand. For men, I see them as two completely different things.