I’m a woman in my 40s. I’m interested in signing up with a dating club—are women in their 40s in demand?

I think you’ll be fine as long as you make a normal effort to look presentable. If you search for “40s,” you’ll find lots of similar questions on the Q&A site. Give them a read. Marika

I’m Meg, a female member. Getting approached while you’re out and about is amazing! Go into the interview with confidence (*^^*) I’m also in my 40s, but no one’s ever even turned around to look at me on the street… haha (￣▽￣;) Oh, and I’m extremely flat-chested too… I can’t believe I actually went to the interview…

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Looks are very important, of course. But when you’re actually considering making an offer, your profile is even more important than your appearance. And once a woman accepts an offer and meets the man, the relationship—including the conversations that follow—is also extremely important. Otherwise, I think it’s difficult for things to continue. Naturally, I assume women at this level are quite exceptional. There are women in their 40s answering questions on this site as well. If you read their answers and think, “I can do that too,” then you should be fine（笑） I’ve never picked up women on the street, but I feel that’s different from receiving an offer through a dating club. Also, there are quite a few older male members, myself included. I think the demand will only continue to grow. The first woman I made an offer to was 35. But she really had no idea what an adult relationship (intimate) through a dating club was supposed to be（笑） The second was 30 and was pretty much what I had imagined, but things never really progressed to an adult relationship (intimate). When I asked the third woman if she could introduce me to someone, she brought along someone barely 20. I was surprised, but she did understand what an adult relationship (intimate) involved（笑） What I’m trying to say is that it’s not just about intimacy. If you can’t have a proper adult relationship (intimate), you won’t be able to compete with younger women.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here—I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. When I conduct interviews myself, I focus more on personality, so if someone is fun to talk to, kind, and considerate, I’ll often register them even if they’re in their 40s. However, I feel that the staff who handle interviews on-site place more emphasis on appearance. Because of that, I think you do need to have a reasonably attractive appearance. That said, many of the people who come in saying, “I’m often told I look younger than my age,” end up being rejected. On the other hand, people who simply come in for an interview, or say something like, “Would someone like me be okay?” seem to get accepted more often. I’m not sure why, but the moment someone says they look young, you naturally imagine someone who actually looks young. Then, when you meet them in person and think, “Huh? They just look their age,” the expectations may have been set too high. So, since you haven’t written that you’re often told you look young, I feel you may still have a chance of being accepted. That said, I think it would be better to spend the week before your interview exercising and watching your diet—in other words, doing a bit of body preparation. You probably won’t change dramatically in just a week, but I do feel that even so, your overall impression can change.

I’m Kamihikoki, a male member. If you’re a woman who gets approached by several men almost every day, it seems the offers never run out. That probably applies no matter how old you are. Very few women over 40 register, so they stand out enough to be remembered right away. I think they’re likely to receive a fair number of offers. I’ve heard they get quite a few from men 20 or 30 years older. Oh, they get offers from men around their own age too. I’ve made one myself. But rather than papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it turned into more of a social gathering or get-together—we naturally hit it off without having to worry about anything, and it ended up being a sort of appreciation dinner for the papa-katsu they usually do.