Maezawa from the president’s office will answer too.
It starts off with something like, “I would never do that,” but then uses words like “frail” and other condescending expressions. Next, it turns into “It’s fun because I get paid,” and then becomes, “Does Universe issue warnings?”
The whole thing is written so strangely that I can’t relate to it at all.
I don’t know… what is it about the way this is written?
I’m Taro, a male member.
I agree that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) involves an age gap, so it requires certain precautions and a particular mindset. But to me, that mindset means understanding and enjoying diversity.
I don’t want to be treated as though I need caregiving. And I’m not talking about the feelings of people who actually provide care—I dislike the condescension behind the phrase “a caregiving-like attitude” that you used. It’s the exact opposite of the mindset I believe in.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Try reading the answers to that question. Did anyone agree with you? The responses were uniformly cold.
I can understand why the provocative wording made you want to speak up. But to me, despite the difference in the question and the way it was phrased, it looks like you’re doing essentially the same thing.
The issue isn’t the age gap. His behavior simply rubbed you the wrong way. Perhaps he couldn’t hold back and expressed himself poorly, while you couldn’t hold back either and were unable to simply let it go. His poor way of speaking may be because his brain function has declined with age, making it harder for him to exercise restraint. Your lack of patience may be due to your youth. So rather than being an age-gap issue, perhaps you both failed to exercise restraint because of your respective ages. Though really, age is just an afterthought. In reality, it may simply be that both of you have personalities that aren’t very patient.
I didn’t point it out to him because I felt there was no point in saying anything. But you seem to still be young, so I thought it might be worth telling you, which is why I’m giving you a serious answer this time.
People from entirely different backgrounds come together at dating clubs. The only thing they really have in common is probably that they want to date. Because everyone comes from such different backgrounds, building a relationship requires trial and error to find common ground and a good fit between your personalities. Music and current trends can be common ground, but they aren’t everything. Besides, recent music and trends represent only a small part of music and trends as a whole. In terms of clinging to what you already know while searching for common ground, your frustration at the other person not knowing recent music, trends, or how young people think is not so different from an older man saying, “Young women these days…”
When people enter into a relationship, I believe it’s important to be considerate of each other and meet halfway. That kind of social awareness isn’t something that can be fixed with a quick word of caution. It’s something people spend their entire lives learning.
Oh, I didn’t actually answer your question.
I don’t remember ever receiving that kind of warning. The warnings I’ve received have been about much more concrete matters—for example, that women menstruate, or that women are often in a position where they can’t refuse overtime.
To repeat myself, the things you’re referring to are the sort of lessons people spend their entire lives trying to learn, only to die before they ever truly master them.
I’m date◎yume, a male member.
> Sometimes I feel like telling these frail old men not to take advantage of the situation just to get a taste of youthful energy.
But since I’m getting paid, I put up with it—and before long, I started enjoying myself and began treating them with the kind of care you’d give someone in need of assistance.
Haha!
Well, please forgive me.
A relationship only works when both people can enjoy it and get something out of it, after all. Haha.
> Since papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) involves relationships with an age gap, it requires various precautions and a particular mindset.
That’s all part of an adult relationship (intimate).
I see it as a form of social education.
