Tips Feb 25, 2021 03:54

I’m dating type C. Would you go home with a male member if he invited you?

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I went out to dinner with a male member last week after he made me an offer. He was the type who wanted to start with dinner only and see if we clicked before becoming intimate, so we parted ways there that day. We’ve talked about going out for dinner again, but he kept saying things like, “I’d love for you to come to my place someday” and “I want you to build a home.” So I’m worried that if we become intimate, he might expect it to be at his apartment rather than at a hotel... He’s single and a black-tier member (please don’t ask how I know his rank lol), so I don’t think it’s anywhere shady. Still, being taken to his place makes me feel like he’s trying to save on the hotel cost (although I don’t think that’s his intention), and I’m also uneasy about suddenly being brought into someone’s personal space. However, I feel awkward asking before we even meet when I don’t know whether he’ll actually invite me over. On the other hand, I’d find it difficult to turn him down if he invited me to his place on the day. What should I do in a situation like this?
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. Thanks for your question. Since he says, “I’d like you to come to my place someday,” I imagine the first time would probably be at a hotel. Or maybe you could stick to dinner only for a while. However, since he plans to invite you over once you’ve gotten closer, you should practice how to turn him down in advance so you’ll be able to say it smoothly when the time comes. For example, if he says, “Come over to my place after this today,” you could say: “Maybe next time. I’d prefer a hotel today.” Something along those lines. There’s a saying that “next time and ghosts never appear,” but I think it’s perfectly fine to say “maybe next time” every time. You should only go to his place once you trust him enough to feel comfortable with whatever might happen there. Basically, it’s wiser not to go.
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Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I’m a male member named Kazu. I’m a man myself, but I would never go along with that. Being a black-tier member doesn’t guarantee that he’s a decent person. Even if it feels difficult to say no when he invites you to his place on the day, I think you should firmly refuse. If he says he won’t give you your allowance unless you go to his place, tell him you’ll report it to the club. He may not be immediately banned just for pressuring you or threatening not to pay your allowance, but he’ll likely be flagged as someone to watch out for.
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