My papa (a male supporter) says he’ll rent an apartment for me and wants me to live there. I’ve turned him down many times, but once he makes up his mind, he can be pushy, and he’s already signed the contract.
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I appreciate the gesture, but considering the risks if we break up, I don’t want to cancel the place I’m living in now.
My papa also has a monthly arrangement with someone besides me, so I’m able to stay level-headed. Even if I let myself get swept up in the moment and moved into his apartment, I feel like it would be a huge hassle to find a new place from scratch if we broke up.
I usually act like, “I love my papa!” so he probably doesn’t realize that I’m refusing this while thinking things through so rationally. I regret not being strong enough to turn him down completely, but I’d like to communicate with him as calmly as possible.
My papa says, “Call the real estate agent and cancel your lease by the end of February,” but I’d like to quietly keep renting my original apartment. What should I do in this situation?
Should I perhaps talk to my current landlord in advance, so that it wouldn’t be a problem even if my papa called to confirm with them? I’ve thought of various things, but that’s about all I can come up with, so I wanted to ask for advice here. Thank you.
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> My papa (a male supporter) says, “Call the real estate agency and cancel the lease by the end of February,” but I want to keep renting my old place without telling him. What should I do in this situation?
So your papa knows where your old place is, right?
As you mentioned, I think it would be best to make some preparations just in case.
You could tell the landlord something like:
“My parent is telling me to move out, but I like living here and want to stay, so I’m going to lie and tell them I’ve moved out. If my parent, a private investigator, or anyone else contacts you, could you please tell them that you can’t disclose any personal information?”
That would remind them that they’re not allowed to share personal information. Since they’d also understand the situation, they probably wouldn’t find it suspicious if someone contacted them—they’d simply understand what was going on.
That said, anyone willing to go that far is frightening, so I also feel you may be better off ending things with him.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
That pushiness is really setting off my danger radar. It also seems likely to spill over into various other areas.
That said, I think the person asking the question wants to continue the relationship despite all that.
Anyway, good luck! Do everything you can think of, including laying the groundwork, and I hope you don’t get caught.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
First of all, if your landlord is a reasonable person, they wouldn’t disclose the details of your lease in response to an inquiry from a third party. Aside from the money issue, I don’t see any problem with quietly continuing to rent the place as you have been.
Saying “I love my papa!” and deciding where you live are two separate matters. Loving him and your own life are separate issues. If your papa is getting those things mixed up, all I can think is, “What is this old guy doing at his age?” Unfortunately, there seem to be a lot of not-too-bright papas like that out there. My condolences.
As for a fundamental solution, I’d suggest finding another suitable papa and switching to him, then lecturing your current papa with something like, “Are you out of your mind?”
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