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Feb 24, 2021 01:56
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well.
Thank you for your question.
I think people tend to feel that way when they start thinking, “Maybe we’re just not a good match.” For men, though, once they’ve been seeing someone for a few months, I think things generally become more stable.
By “stable,” I mean that unless something major happens, they usually don’t start thinking about ending things.
That said, as the number of women they’re seeing increases, there may come a point when they feel they can’t continue seeing anyone else at the same time. In those cases, they may gradually drift apart.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Hikouki, a male member.
Sometimes your feelings for someone keep growing every time you meet, while other times the opposite happens.
Speaking from an advisory perspective:
At a club, the other person usually won’t give you any danger signs or warnings that might lead to a breakup, so in most cases, you never really know why things came to an end.
It’s not necessarily a matter of one person being at fault, but from the man’s perspective, here are some things I’ve noticed:
What initially seems acceptable “to a certain extent” gradually expands beyond your tolerance, and that tendency doesn’t change.
You repeatedly feel that the two of you have different attitudes toward money.
You no longer share that sense of freshness or the small moments of joy and excitement that feel a little like a surprise—not anything major, of course.
When these things start piling up, you begin to feel a gap between your values and theirs. You meet less often, and eventually start trying not to meet at all.
Men tend to hold on to their feelings, so it’s hard to be the one to actually bring up ending things…
When you meet someone who is compatible with you in every way, even a slight difference can feel like a huge gap. Since you don’t really feel like explaining all of this, I think both men and women always need to be considerate of each other.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
So far, I’ve never actively felt that I wanted to cut things off or break up. Usually, things just fade out naturally when I stop feeling like meeting and don’t make plans for the next time. With a monthly arrangement, I’ll usually say I’d like to end things at the end of the following month once I no longer feel like meeting.
I generally lose interest after we’ve met a few times and it hasn’t been particularly enjoyable. I suppose getting stuck in a rut is the biggest enemy.
Other
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
In my case, after the first meeting, I often find myself thinking about ending things. On the other hand, if a woman has that special something, I’d like to continue seeing her.
I’m not fixated on maintaining a relationship with any one person, so I don’t want to spend my precious time with anyone I don’t feel comfortable around. I also don’t want the woman to force herself to continue seeing me. If she’s not interested, I think it’s better for both of us to move on to the next opportunity.
Women with that special something—such as having good intimate compatibility or being available when I want to meet—are rare, so I make sure to value them.
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出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
To begin with, I’m rarely ever in a relationship close enough—or liked enough by the other person—to think, “Maybe I should cut things off” or “Maybe we should break up.”
Besides, I’m not their main papa financially, so I don’t really think of it as “cutting them off.” It feels more like declining to continue the arrangement.
There are various reasons I might consider not continuing, but in the end, I decide based on how I’m feeling at the time. Usually, it’s when things start to feel vaguely empty or I’m no longer excited about it.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m date◎yume, a male member.
I believe a relationship should end when the woman says she wants to end it.
Since we still need each other, my regular income has become more stable now that we’re entering our third year together, and I’m not very good in bed, among other things, we agreed to continue the relationship with a slightly reduced allowance.
Other
I’m Taro, a male member.
I think it’s time to move on when you find yourself thinking, “In the end, this is nothing more than a relationship based on money.”
One sign is the moment I realize she sees me purely as a customer. I don’t mind being a customer, but once I realize she’s drawing a clear line and simply trying to keep things running smoothly on the other side of it, without forming any emotional connection with a valued customer, I lose interest. If I’ve fallen for her, I’ll try for a while to break through that wall, but if it seems impossible, I decide it’s time to move on.
The other sign is something within myself. For example, we go into a room, neither of us has brushed our teeth or taken a shower, and she starts guiding things toward kissing or touching. I’ll respond, but sometimes I realize I’m not really feeling it or getting carried away. That tells me I’m not in love with her. If I realize I’m only seeing her because I can be intimate with her as long as I pay, I decide to stop meeting her. It feels somewhat disrespectful, and I don’t want to have that kind of relationship with someone who doesn’t feel disrespected by it.
That’s the simple way of putting it, but since these are people I actually meet, I think about all sorts of things—sometimes reading too deeply into things or considering what might happen in the future. But when I make up my mind, it happens in an instant. I’m grateful to the women I’ve met, though, so I try to end things as peacefully as possible and avoid hurting them.