You may be surprised, but I’m actually registered with Universe with my husband’s approval.
By the way, I have his permission on the understanding that it’s dinner only.
In reality, though, I do have an adult relationship.
I usually tell the male members that my husband doesn’t know about it, but what kind of reaction would men have if I told them the truth—that my husband actually approves?
I’d appreciate hearing your thoughts.
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Quite a few women have boyfriends or are married, so finding that out doesn’t bother me. However, I’d probably be wary if she told me her partner knew and approved. I want my club activities to remain a secret from everyone other than those directly involved, so honestly, it would feel uncomfortable knowing that someone else was aware of it.
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Our staff member Yokoyama will answer as well.
During interviews, I’ve come across several women whose boyfriends knew about their papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but this is the first time I’ve heard of a husband knowing!
If I were a member and someone told me her husband knew, my honest reaction would be, “Whoa, that’s scary! There has to be some kind of ulterior motive.” I’d probably say goodbye and move on.
I don’t see any benefit to telling him.
—Yokoyama
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Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer this one as well.
Thank you for your question.
People have all kinds of preferences. Some want to watch their wife being intimate with another man, while others are interested in swinging.
Even if something is considered perfectly normal within a particular community, it’s natural for people outside of it to react negatively.
With that in mind, if you want to clearly state that your husband approves, I think it would be better to go somewhere that accepts that kind of arrangement.
I’m sure there are people at Universe who would have no problem with it, but I don’t hear “husband-approved” very often, so I feel that more men would probably be put off by it.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m going to step away. In relationships between men and women, things can happen that you’d never imagine, and you never know where or in what form information might spread.
I keep my activities with the dating club completely confidential, so I’m sorry, but I can’t pursue a relationship.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’d be extremely wary of the possibility that it was a honey trap. My caution meter would probably go off the charts, so while pretending to stay calm, I’d start thinking about how to make a quick exit without things getting complicated.
If the relationship were officially approved, including an adult relationship (intimate), I’d feel reassured that it was simply their preference and start discussing when to have a threesome. But being only half-approved just increases the risks, which is a shame.
If their spouse were wealthy, upsetting a rich person could cause trouble. If they were poor, I’d be afraid of someone with nothing to lose going all-in. So when you think about it, middle class is probably the safest.
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I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane.
One of my long-term girlfriends is married. I’ve actually been with her longer than her husband has, so it’s never really bothered me—but I wouldn’t want her husband to find out before I do. The thought of that happening is horrifying.
She ended up marrying her husband because he comforted and supported her when she was depressed after I broke off our engagement. At the time, I was the person she had wanted to marry, so I continued to listen to her and advise her whenever something came up. Our relationship has since been rekindled and is still ongoing.
It sends chills down my spine to think about what it would be like if our positions were reversed and everything came to light.
If I heard it directly from you, I’d end things with her immediately.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
That’s not exactly approved, is it? lol
She has permission to go as far as dinner, but they’re doing more than that, right? Since she only has partial permission, I feel it actually increases the chances of unnecessary information reaching her husband and getting me dragged into trouble. Any male member with a sound sense of risk would probably be completely put off. That said, some people who enjoy that kind of play will stick around.
When you look at it that way, it’s actually a pretty well-designed setup as a litmus test.
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