I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
Thanks for your question.
> ① Pay for the meal
That goes without saying, really. The idea of not paying or splitting the bill simply doesn’t exist.
> ② Give her an allowance in an envelope after the meal (¥10,000–¥20,000 if it’s dinner only, then part ways; ¥30,000–¥50,000 paid in advance if there will be an adult relationship) ← Does this count as transportation money?
Haven’t you heard the club’s request? For a first date, the club asks men to give the woman ¥5,000–¥10,000 before the meal.
Then, toward the end of the meal, if you want to invite her to an adult relationship, you discuss the allowance and other terms of the arrangement with her.
It generally leaves a better impression if you give her the allowance as soon as you enter the room, but the club doesn’t get involved in that part. As long as it’s given in the room, the timing seems to vary from person to person.
> ③ Naturally, pay for the hotel as well
Naturally.
> ④ If a taxi is needed, pay for that too
On a first date, it’s standard to part ways before the last train so that she won’t need a taxi. It’s also safer to avoid a long date right from the first meeting, since the woman may feel uncomfortable with it.
From the second adult date onward, staying out past the last train may be fine if you confirm it with her in advance. In that case, though, you should generally pay a little extra for the taxi.
If you know the exact fare, paying that amount is fine, but occasionally there are complaints that the amount paid was less than the actual cost.
Paying a little extra should help ensure that she doesn’t come up short even if your calculation is slightly off.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Here’s how I picture the first date:
1. Once we’re seated at the restaurant, I quickly hand her ¥10,000 for transportation in a small envelope when the server isn’t looking.
2. Pay the restaurant bill.
3. Once we get to the room, give her the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate). The amount should be agreed on before entering the room.
4. Naturally, pay for the hotel as well.
5. Don’t keep her out so late that she misses the last train, especially on the first date.
For the second date onward:
1. Pay the restaurant bill.
2. Once we get to the room, give her the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate). Never change the amount without her consent.
3. Naturally, pay for the hotel as well.
4. If it looks like she might miss the last train, let her know in advance that you’ll cover her taxi fare, then give it to her before you part ways.
That’s more or less how I see it. Since it can get complicated, I think it’s better not to factor in the restaurant and hotel bills. You can’t go wrong if you simply assume that the man pays all expenses each time.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I find it curious that there are options ① and ③.
For me, there are three possibilities, depending on how the date goes:
① I tell her the amount in front of the hotel—or after we go inside, while we’re sitting on the sofa—and give it to her when we’re leaving.
② After entering the hotel, I give it to her on the bed as things naturally progress toward getting intimate. (This is probably the best option, both in terms of how much she likes me and whether the arrangement continues…)
③ If things naturally heat up and we end up getting intimate without having had a chance to talk about it or give her the allowance, I give it to her when we’re leaving.
