I was given a business card on the day I first met a man for our first meeting.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well. Thank you for your question. You could say he may be a little too trusting, but more than that, I get the impression that he believes properly introducing himself is the best way to build a good relationship going forward. And I also get the sense that he’s the kind of person who wouldn’t run away, even if you accidentally ended up having a child together.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. It’s not that he’s being careless. It’s strategy—pure strategy. There’s a reason behind it. Here’s my theory: ① He wants his title to make him attractive. → He’s aiming for the “Wow, I get to date the president of a company like that? How wonderful!” reaction. ② He disclosed his information. In other words, he absolutely won’t—or can’t—do anything strange. So she can feel safe. → His goal is to make the woman feel reassured that “this man won’t do anything weird.” ③ I disclosed my information, so you should disclose yours too. → His goal is to ask the person he’s dating to share her information as well. Hopefully, it’s②.

I’m Kazu, a male member. When I first heard that some men hand over their business cards at the first meeting, I thought they were being careless and letting their guard down. But thinking about it more, I realized they may simply feel that there’s no real harm in doing so, since a business card wouldn’t necessarily give someone anything they could use to threaten them with. People you meet through a dating club are looking for a relationship, not trying to set you up or bring you down. If you’re afraid of dating clubs, you might see many of the people you meet as bad actors, but I’m sure 99.99% of them are simply looking for a relationship. From that perspective, there’s no problem with handing over a business card. For example, after receiving a business card, did you think about using it to threaten the person and extort money from them—or simply causing trouble for them without worrying about retaliation? Of course not. In that sense, I think that man was showing that he trusts the people he meets through the dating club. You might hear this and think that men are simply more willing to disclose their personal information. However, although I’ve never received a business card, there have occasionally been women who shared their real names with me fairly early in the relationship. When a woman shows that kind of trust, it makes me want to live up to it in return. And it’s true that I tend to grow closer to women like that more quickly. These days, I just see it as a difference in how people approach building relationships.

I’m Meg, a female member. I see what you mean. I was surprised when I received a business card at my first meeting, too. He also told me, “I’m not going to run or hide.” I took it as a sign that he trusted me. I think it’s something you can be happy about.