I’m the beginner member who was previously told I was “a virgin when it comes to dating.” I’d appreciate your opinions again.

I’m Meg, a female member. I was invited by the esteemed Date◎Yume, so please forgive me for stepping in… I’m in my 40s and have had children. If the issue you have in mind is size, there’s not much you can do to change that. There may be something else you haven’t noticed. If you’re comfortable speaking with me, I’d be happy to hear you out. Please feel free to contact the club. Though perhaps you weren’t asking for my input…

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. Thank you for your question. There could be various factors involved, so it’s difficult to pinpoint the cause based only on what you’ve written. > The second woman I entered into an arrangement with on the first day First of all, is there something you can do about the fact that she was only the second woman? You wrote: > I haven’t had many relationships with women outside the adult-entertainment industry. That may mean you simply lack experience. In the adult-entertainment industry, the other person will provide the service as long as you remain passive, but generally speaking, men are more often expected to take the initiative. Also, you may think you’re being attentive, but if you’re too rough with your hands, for example, the other person may find it unpleasant. To gain more experience in these areas, I think it would be helpful to arrange one meeting a week. You may even meet someone who will tell you the exact reason. > I’ve been turned down for a second meeting. (For both the second and third dates, I was told, “I’m on my period, so a hotel is out,” and then we gradually lost touch.) If she said that when you invited her on a date, it means she didn’t want to go on a date with you in the first place. There may be a problem with your usual behavior, or your allowance may be too low. If she was willing to go out for dinner but turned you down when you tried to go to a hotel afterward, then the issue may have been something that happened at the hotel—or the allowance. You haven’t mentioned the amount of the allowance. Did you ask what she wanted? If you gave her exactly what she requested, then if she turns you down afterward, the issue is probably something other than the allowance. Perhaps you didn’t take a shower, or there may have been some other problem at the hotel. > Next month, I’ve arranged to start a new relationship with a female member who has relatively little experience. In your case, I feel the opposite approach may be better. It might be best to date more experienced women first and build up your own experience. They may subtly give you hints about what you should do differently. Before meeting the woman next month, I think it would be fine to arrange one more meeting starting now.

This is one of those things even Flag Maker from the Advice Corner couldn’t verify, haha. Still, if you already had a vague suspicion that XL might be the cause, I do wonder about offering to someone with “limited experience.” This is exactly the kind of situation where I’d love to investigate for you, but unfortunately, I’m currently on a break. Marika

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I feel like women may feel more at ease if they think, “I feel sorry for him.” Maybe she’s intimidated because she thinks you’re a man who’s unaware of how large he is. How about taking the stance of: “I’m truly sorry that I’m so large. I have absolutely no intention of causing trouble for anyone, but it’s something I can’t control, and it really troubles me. I’m genuinely sorry if I cause you any inconvenience.”

I’m in Seattle. I have the same concern. You definitely need plenty of lube. As Dateyume mentioned, women who have given birth can feel really good.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. > Next month, I’ve arranged to start seeing another female member who has “little experience.” I completely understand why you’re drawn to women with “little experience,” but I can’t help thinking the same thing will happen again. The issue is “XL.” I think you’d be better off focusing on women who have given birth—single mothers, women in their 30s or 40s, or, if you’re willing to go that far, even women in their 50s… Oh! I just remembered—Meg. Meg-san. Someone like Meg-san would be a good match for you!

I’m Kazu, a male member. I believe size is a separate issue from bedroom manners. Perhaps it would be best to pursue the relationship without focusing solely on penetration.