I’m the one who previously asked about sometimes hating my papa (a male supporter) so much for getting angry when I don’t answer the phone that I want to hurt him. He really is abnormal, isn’t he? Someone also said that he sees women as objects, and that’s exactly what he’s like. Even though he only gives me 150,000 yen a month for my apartment and living expenses, he tells me not to get involved with other men. He acts like my boyfriend while sleeping around with other girls behind my back. I honestly think, “What a total piece of shit.” I don’t need his money anymore. I don’t know if he thought I wouldn’t fight back because I’m quiet and proper, but he has taken me for a complete fool. I’m really fed up. Someone also advised me to find another man and break things off, so I’ve been thinking about it.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here, answering your question. Thank you for reaching out. > Is this just too awful? It’s far too awful. In a situation like this, I think it’s best to simply say goodbye without making a fuss and walk away. Even if you explain how you feel, I doubt it will make you feel much better. For example, if he tells someone he knows, they may say, “She sounds like a terrible woman,” and the questioner could end up being seen as the one at fault. The best approach is to say something like, “Thank you for everything up to now,” and then suddenly disappear one day. That’s the best way. If you do that, most people will come to think that you were a good person. Who actually thinks that isn’t important. There’s a wonderful Japanese saying: “Heaven is watching.” It’s best to act without ever forgetting that.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Is it like farting on your way out during the final goodbye? You’d been covering it up and putting up with it all this time. The bad gas had built up. But since you chose to accept the allowance and go along with it, you’re basically the one who chose this, forced yourself to play along, and then got angry all by yourself. It’s not really the other person’s fault—you’re the one choosing to walk into the anger. If you don’t understand the underlying psychology behind that, I worry you’ll keep repeating the same thing with other people. Do you also suddenly start hating other things, or bottle everything up until you explode? Are you okay? You should try expressing your anger to your boyfriend little by little, whenever it comes up.

I’m Kamihikoki, a male member. A woman who can’t appreciate ¥150,000, a man who can’t bring her joy— they’re both equally at fault… I’ve come to cherish my favorite girl, thinking, “What a sweet, wonderful girl she is.” Thank you. I’m grateful.

I’m Taro, a male member. Which question are you referring to? I’m not sure. It would’ve been helpful if you’d included the URL. I searched and found a few possibilities, but none of them seem quite right. Since I don’t know, I’ll answer based solely on this question. If you want to break up, then just break up. There’s no way for us to judge how aggressive your parting shot should be. That’s an intensely personal matter, isn’t it? Generally speaking, I’d say, “If you don’t like it, just end things cleanly.” In the end, your terms simply didn’t match. More specifically, you accepted those terms at first, but then changed your mind. And that’s perfectly fine—people are allowed to change their minds. Your decision is 100% valid. If you don’t like something, you don’t like it. Isn’t that the end of the matter? What I find unpleasant is that, despite having made a 100% valid decision, you’re trying to get people on your side on some obscure message board like this. Spending valuable time and energy on how to phrase something you dislike is pointless and trivial, isn’t it? Doesn’t asking for that kind of validation only expose your own weakness? Don’t you think you’re wasting the limited time you have in life? More than anything, doesn’t it just strike you as creepy? This is unrelated, but “like a mirage” is a nice expression. I had some things to say about your overall stance, but there’s a certain level of thoughtfulness in the details. Addendum (for Yuri): I initially thought that too, but it seems to me that no one actually said in their answers that “the papa is abnormal.” So I figured that might not be what you meant.