When a married man with children at home does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I find myself thinking, “His kids probably won’t turn out well—they might go off the rails in the future.” (I’m studying education.)
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I understand the feeling because my own parent was actually having an affair, but children aren’t that stupid. They pick up on things from the atmosphere.
Sometimes I’m asked for advice about their wife or children, and I find myself thinking that maybe everything would be solved if they just stopped doing papa-katsu. Do you think it would be okay for me to say that?
It’s not really something I’m in a position to say, considering I’m a college student doing papa-katsu myself, right?
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
Thanks for your question.
> My own parent actually cheated, so I understand how it feels.
Did you not grow up to be a decent person?
Or did you grow up just fine?
If you didn’t grow up properly, then I can’t listen to the opinion of someone who isn’t decent.
And if you did grow up properly, then if you think about why you were able to turn out that way, you’ll probably figure out what to say.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
“An affair” and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are completely different. The emotional intensity is totally different too. That’s why I think affairs are easier to get caught.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> Sometimes he asks me for advice about his wife and children, and I think, “Wouldn’t all of this be resolved if he quit papa-katsu?” Is it okay for me to say that?
There are times when I share things about myself, and times when I’m asked about them in return. I think she’s trying to infer various things about my relationships from the fact that I don’t hide very much.
Relationships between men and women—and sex—aren’t something that can be solved so simply by quitting papa-katsu. That’s why I choose to maintain relationships involving financial support. I’d appreciate it if you could understand that part（笑）
You’re currently studying education, so I hope you’ll use what you’ve experienced in the past and what you’re going through now to become an educator who can understand people’s pain.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Since your parents were having affairs too, I guess you weren’t raised properly either and ended up going off the rails?
Telling them might bring the relationship to an end, but if you want to say it, I think you should.
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