I’m a Type C female member, and I’d like some advice about changing my type.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well. Thank you for your question. > Is this happening because men show up with their sex drive at its peak that day? I believe that’s exactly the reason. Of course, not every man is like that, but many seem to misunderstand the situation. Since they assume they’ll be going to a hotel that day, they mistakenly think it’s okay to start talking that way as soon as they meet. Apparently, some men touch women during meals or in elevators, and even try to kiss them. We do receive complaints—or rather, this kind of feedback—about certain men. In most cases, it’s the same men. They repeat it even after being warned. It seems their sex drive overwhelms their ability to think clearly. Touching someone during a meal or while traveling together, when she clearly dislikes it, can constitute indecent assault. They seem to lose sight of the fact that this goes beyond the club’s rules and into the realm of the law. > If switching to Type B would prevent this from happening, I’m thinking of changing. I think switching would significantly reduce the chances, so I recommend doing so. On the other hand, under the original Type B rules, men aren’t supposed to invite you anywhere on the first day. So you won’t be invited out on the first day by gentlemanly men who properly follow the rules. That’s the one point you need to keep in mind. Even so, there are benefits to enjoying a proper meal first, building a relationship, and then moving on to an adult relationship (intimate), so I think changing would be a good idea. With Type B, it’s also acceptable for the woman to make the invitation, if she wants to...

I’m in Seattle. Since it’s important to confirm the terms, why not do it quietly or by typing on your phone? That’s still much better than a man who takes you somewhere without giving you a say or agreeing on any terms beforehand. If you want to negotiate after the meal, you could simply say, “Let’s discuss it after dinner,” in a gentle way.

I’m Kazu, a male member. > Is this happening because I’m a Type C and the men show up with their sex drives at maximum on the day? I don’t think so. It happens because those men lack consideration. > If their personality and character are the cause, regardless of type, then changing my type wouldn’t make any difference. I agree.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. > Is this kind of mishap happening because I’m a Type C, and the men show up that day with their sex drive at maximum? I think that’s exactly it. If the subject of an adult relationship (intimate) comes up, you could say, “We’re still eating, so why don’t we talk about that after we finish?” That should work. As Taro-san mentioned, it may also help to assume he’s simply a very serious-minded man and steer the conversation toward a different topic. If he takes the hint and goes along with the new topic, that’s a ○. If he’s self-centered and still has his sex drive at maximum, that’s an ×—maybe it’s fine to see it that way.（笑）

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. > If switching to Type B would prevent this from happening, I’m thinking of changing. It will happen much less often. > However, if the cause is the man’s personality or character rather than the type itself, then changing types wouldn’t really make a difference, would it? That’s exactly right. The correct response is to turn down men who bring up things like that. If you disable regular offers and switch to letter dating, you can screen for that without having to meet them in person.

I’m Taro, a male member. It’s late and I’ve had a bit to drink, so this answer may be slightly questionable, but I wanted to respond because it’s a really interesting question. I think all male members should be aware of this perspective. I’ve heard women talk about situations like that before, and honestly, I found it fascinating. Sometimes they’re even having these conversations in a café in the middle of the day. Then the woman gets flustered and declares, “I absolutely hate that!” I’ve often thought, “Why didn’t you invite me?”—even though this was before I ever met them. I would have loved to sit at the next table and listen in. I’ve laughed so many times hearing them talk about things like that. But after hearing these stories repeatedly, I started wondering if those men are necessarily perverts. A dating club is, in a sense, a transactional relationship, and some people believe it’s better to discuss the details of the terms in a straightforward, businesslike manner from the beginning. Of course, I understand that some women dislike that. Still, people with very different perspectives often meet through these clubs, so rather than judging and dismissing someone’s entire character, I think it would be better to communicate a little more deeply. I think most of them probably don’t mean any harm. They may simply like the woman and feel that they should discuss the finer details of the arrangement. Of course, objectively speaking, they may lack tact, but men are just as nervous as women at a first meeting, so some awkwardness is probably unavoidable. Besides, society often expects men to take the lead. I’ll say it again: communication is important. So if you dislike that kind of conversation, I think it’s better for the woman to say so clearly. Of course, if you only criticize him, he’ll feel discouraged, so make sure to express some positive feelings as well. The key is to communicate your discomfort skillfully. In probably 80% of cases, the man means no harm—he simply likes you and is trying to sincerely discuss the next step. Ideally, the man should be in control of the situation, but if things aren’t going well, there’s nothing wrong with the woman taking the lead. In the end, if he turns out to have no sense, you can simply cut things off. Basically, the distance between you is still fairly great, and both sides have to make an effort, so if you notice what’s happening, try making one more push from your side. Incidentally, if you switch to Type B, you may attract a different kind of pseudo-romance enthusiast, so you could end up with a different problem. As you’ve realized, it depends on the man, not the type. More than anything, it’s a communication issue. So rather than changing your dating type, I think it would be better to focus on finding ways to solve the immediate problem. I’m rambling on unnecessarily because I’m drunk, and there’s nothing I can do about that now. I’ve written everything without holding back, so feel free to skim through it and take whatever parts seem useful.