I’m a female member.

I’m Taro, a male member. This is slightly off-topic, but here are three ideas that might help address the underlying issue: 1. Buy something called “LUEUR HOT” and apply it generously to your intimate area. It worked in my case (though that’s just one example). 2. Okamoto 0.01 condoms are good. They greatly increase the amount of sensation for the man. Since they’re difficult to put on, I think it’s best if the woman puts it on while giving oral. 3. While thrusting in the missionary position, reach down and gently stimulate the scrotum or anus. Do it unexpectedly when the timing feels right. It’s a technique I learned from a sex worker. I hope this helps.

I’m in Seattle. Delayed ejaculation has been an issue for me lately too. I love using plenty of lube. Even so, if I can’t finish after 15 minutes or more, we both get tired, so we stop. Toys are fun, though. Try your best to bring it up in a tactful way.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well. Thank you for your question. Rejecting lotion outright… He sounds like a man who only thinks about himself. If you told him it causes pain and that was still his response, he may not be a very considerate person. If he rejects lotion, he may also have a negative impression of toys, so he might reject those too. > Is it possible for things to feel less pleasurable if the lotion makes everything too slippery? I feel like it’s possible. It may also depend on the lotion’s viscosity. > Could a man be put off if the woman is the one who says she wants to use toys? I don’t think he’d be put off, but with this particular man, I feel like he might reject the idea. As for how to bring it up, you could casually say something like: “I’ve been curious about that toy I saw mentioned in the question box, so I’d like to try it♪” Then follow up with something like: “They were praising it so much, but it can’t really be that good, right? I wonder if it actually is?” You could also steer the conversation toward, “Then buy one next time,” or suggest going shopping for one together. (And if they don’t have that particular one in stock, you can simply have him buy you something else.) > Papa said he wants full-body caressing, but specifically, what should I do and where? I’m not entirely sure either, so try asking: “Could you give me full-body caressing too?” That should help you understand what he means by “full-body caressing.”

I’m Kazu, a male member. There’s a lot to nitpick about both the questioner and her papa (lol). > Is it possible for things to feel less pleasurable if lotion makes everything too slippery? I’ve never had sex using lotion outside of adult entertainment, so I can’t say what it’s like when things get too slippery. However, it is true that when a woman is very wet, there may not be enough friction, which can make it feel less pleasurable. > Would some men be put off if a woman said she wanted to use toys? I welcome women who are proactive about pleasure, such as touching their own clit while I’m inside them, so depending on how she brought it up, I might actually be pleased. Actually, why not try touching your own clit with your fingers while the man is moving? I doubt he’d think there was anything wrong with you touching yourself. > My papa said he wanted me to caress his whole body, but what exactly should I do, and where? Just as women have different areas that feel good, men also differ in terms of their sensitive spots and what they like. Men usually pay close attention to a woman’s reactions during foreplay. So watch your papa’s reactions as you explore his entire body with your tongue, and try to find his sensitive spots. Even when it comes to licking, there are many different ways: gently with the tip of your tongue, more firmly with your tongue pointed, using the soft underside of your tongue, or giving a broad lick with the top of your tongue. Sometimes a man wants you to keep focusing on the same spot in the same way, while other times repeated stimulation becomes numbing and he wants you to move elsewhere. Or it may feel good, but only mildly so, and he may want you to quickly move on to a more sensitive area. There are really all kinds of preferences. You’re the same way, aren’t you? Rather than vaguely asking what he wants you to do, try licking him and watching his reactions. If you can’t tell what he likes, ask him each time whether a particular approach feels good. Once you figure out his preferred way of being touched, your papa will become completely captivated by you.