Even if my papa cheats on me, it doesn’t mean it’s because I’m unpleasant, unattractive, or have a bad figure… right?
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He adored me, told me not to see other men, and said he wasn’t seeing anyone else either. But then I found out he was making moves on other girls too, and I was shocked to realize, “Oh… this is someone who can lie without a second thought.”
From that moment, my feelings just completely cooled off. The face of the man I had loved so much suddenly started looking like nothing more than Fukuzawa Yukichi to me.
I had never been cheated on in any relationship outside of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so having something that felt like cheating happen to me was incredibly upsetting. It made me wonder whether I was cheated on because there was something wrong with me.
But my papa adores me, and papa-katsu itself is, after all, a rather tainted way to meet someone (sorry for the harsh wording), so maybe it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with me personally? I do have a papa, but men my own age confess their feelings to me too. Is it wrong for me to be this upset just because some older man cheated on me…?
Also, since my papa kept telling me not to cheat, I had been taking things seriously and doing my best. But now I’m starting to want to spend time with guys my own age, or with other men from dating clubs who are even wealthier than my papa.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> I sometimes wonder if there’s actually something wrong with me. I do have a papa, but men my own age also confess their feelings to me. Is it wrong for me to be upset just because an older man cheated on me…??
A dating club is a place for people to date, so there’s nothing wrong with dating whoever you want.
Ultimately, it comes down to what kind of relationship style the two people involved want and choose to practice.
The reality is that once you pay the introduction fee, you can be introduced to someone, which makes you want to make an offer, right? (笑)
It may be difficult to hold yourself back from making an offer—or, if you’re a woman, to turn one down—but there are couples who do manage it, so it’s certainly not impossible.
> My papa told me not to cheat, so I’ve been taking things seriously. But lately, I’ve started wanting to spend time with guys my own age, as well as other men from dating clubs who are richer than my papa.
As for men your own age, I think you should keep those relationships separate from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
In fact, you should use what you’ve learned through papa-katsu to find yourself a great guy your own age.
When your papa says, “Don’t cheat,” I think he’s probably referring to casual guys and other men from dating clubs.
He may simply be telling you to keep your distance because of various risks, such as being identified or contracting an illness.
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If your papa doesn’t like you because you’re unpleasant, unattractive, or have an unflattering figure, wouldn’t he simply end things with you?
It’s actually quite common for a papa to ask you to be exclusive while seeing other girls himself.
Marika
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
Thank you for your question.
This is a pretty common situation, isn’t it?
I don’t understand why some men tell women not to see other men or to leave the club—that’s a violation of the club’s rules—while they themselves continue seeing other women.
There are far too many unreasonable men who see other women themselves but tell their partners not to see anyone else.
They probably have a strong “I’m the one paying you” mentality. But in the first place, I feel that men who treat women like possessions are especially likely to say things like that.
If the man were genuinely appealing, the woman would likely choose to focus on him without being told.
> My papa told me not to cheat, so I was making a serious effort.
As you’ve already realized, you now know that it was pointless. So don’t let him notice how you really feel, learn to put on an act as if he’s the only one for you…
…and find other papas as well.
Even if you re-register with Universe, you can arrange for your profile not to be shown to that man, so consult the staff.
The best option would be to hide your profile from him and change your club name.
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