The topic of last-minute cancellations came up in another question, but I was stood up twice in a row.

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too. Thanks for your question. > How do you prevent last-minute cancellations? I think it’s best to accommodate the woman’s schedule. For example, if a man sends an offer like: 5 p.m. on the ○th 5 p.m. on the △th 5 p.m. on the ◆th At first glance, it looks like he’s offering three dates and being flexible about her schedule. But they’re all at 5 p.m. (lol) When a woman sees that, she may think, “This man can only do 5 p.m. What should I do? I work until 5—are there any days I can leave early?” Or, “If I suggest 6 p.m., will he withdraw the offer?” She may end up forcing herself to reply, “I can make it at 5 p.m. on the △th,” but in reality, that may be quite difficult for her. Then, when the day comes, she may not be able to leave work early after all. Or she may have thought she could just barely make it if she left on time, but then she ends up leaving late. Things like that can happen. Also, if it’s relationship type C, she may start worrying, “What if he’s a strange man?” Or his profile may sound like an adult relationship (intimate) is expected, making her gradually lose the desire to go. That stress can even affect her physically. With that in mind, if you’re able to accommodate her, I think it’s better to choose a date and time that works for her. Occasionally, you’ll see men who say, “Please send me every date that works for you.” That actually has the opposite effect. It makes you think, “Who do you think you are, some kind of king?” It comes across as way too arrogant. (lol) Women become suspicious, and they often take a long time to reply. When you ask why, they’ll say something like, “Even if he says that, I don’t know how I’m supposed to respond…” In that sense, I thought this was a very well-planned approach: “Please tell me which weekday evenings work for you, along with the times.” People who have never been stood up at the last minute may simply have been lucky. Even so, I think it’s important to plan in a way that makes last-minute cancellations less likely. People who can do this naturally, even without thinking about it, are probably less likely to be stood up. Today’s takeaway: Use wording like: “Please tell me which weekday evenings work for you, along with the times.” (lol) Of course, if you prefer daytime meetings, change it to daytime, and if you prefer weekends, change it to weekends. It’s also a good idea to include something reassuring for women in your profile.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. If you assume women are going to cancel, you’ll never be surprised by a cancellation—and they may just drift away, too, right? If you believe you’re lucky, lucky things keep happening. When you give a child some candy and they’re happy about it, you want to give them more. I think even God wants to bring good fortune to people who welcome it. That’s why even a congested road starts clearing up when you switch drivers. By the time you pass through, the traffic jam has moved to the opposite side. A good future is built on a collection of good memories, too. The one time I experienced a no-show after a match, I remember feeling a little happy and thinking, “Oh, lucky me—I have some free time now and don’t have to meet her.” Apparently, she was the kind of woman who would have been immediately and permanently banned. As Mac wrote, it may be rare if you generally work around the woman’s schedule. Even just getting ready for a date takes women about ten times longer than men—if it takes a man ten minutes—and their physical condition is more delicate, too. Besides, papa-katsu probably accounts for only about one-hundredth of a woman’s interest compared with a man’s (maybe one ten-thousandth?), so there’s no need to get worked up over every little thing. It’s also important to help women use their time efficiently without making things burdensome for them. Try to become the kind of man women won’t cancel on—and, even better, the kind they’ll wait for if there’s a cancellation. Ah, but you can only have one person officially in the picture… P.S. Whether it’s through a setting, online, or by letter, first dates surprisingly often end up lasting the entire day. I suppose that’s because we work around the woman’s schedule. Hardly any of them already had plans that day, so maybe that’s where their level of papa-katsu experience shows…

I’m Kazu, a male member. As I mentioned in my earlier answer, I’ve never had a last-minute cancellation, so I assumed that cancellations like that simply didn’t happen at clubs. Because of that, I’d never really thought about preventing them. I felt this answer would be rather uninteresting, so I hadn’t written anything. But after reading Mac’s answer, something clicked, so I decided to respond. It may be what Mac refers to in point ③. Come to think of it, when I make an offer, I almost always say, “I’ll work around the woman’s schedule.” Since that alone might make it difficult for her to respond, I add something like, “Please let me know which weekday evenings work for you, and what time.” Could 5:00 p.m. have been a little too early?

I’m Taro, a male member. First-meeting last-minute cancellations happen every now and then. I looked into my own numbers, and it was about 20%—surprisingly high. In most cases, the reason was work or feeling unwell, and when we rescheduled and met, they didn’t seem to have any particular issues. For second meetings onward, we usually discuss the schedule together. But for a first meeting, the club simply sends over some options and the woman chooses one—a single back-and-forth—so I suppose sometimes she agrees to a date that’s a bit too difficult for her, and things fall through as a result. For a first meeting, it’s probably best to avoid clubs with strict cancellation policies. I make reservations too, but I’ve never been charged for canceling by phone on the day. Also, I haven’t tried this yet, but if you use a letter date and arrange the schedule directly, you can discuss it and choose a date that works comfortably for both of you, which might reduce the risk of a last-minute cancellation. That’s what I wrote—but that was actually the previous question. Never mind, then（笑）