I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
This isn’t really a question… more like a monologue, I guess.
Posting a monologue in the question box when you’re feeling lonely…
First of all, the last-minute cancellation you’re talking about was a cancellation of a club-arranged date. Since that’s part of our job, if the woman doesn’t show up, the office goes into a frenzy.
“What? She still hasn’t arrived?”
“〇〇, contact her immediately!”
“Yes, yes, I’m sorry. I completely understand why you’re upset. We’re contacting her now, and we’ll get back to you.”
“What? You can’t reach her?”
“Is she doing this on purpose? Is she?”
“Send her an SMS, too.”
“And LINE.”
“Still no reply to anything?”
That’s the kind of chaos it turns into.
With a letter date, however, the arrangement is completed before you meet the woman. After that, it’s a matter of personal choice between the two of you.
So when chatting on LINE, you need to think about how to talk in a way that makes a last-minute cancellation less likely, and what would make the other person want to come on the date.
Of course, we don’t want last-minute cancellations even when it’s a personal arrangement. But please understand that the cancellation rate can change depending on the content of your messages.
Even with club-arranged dates, there are things men ask us to tell the woman, and sometimes we think, “You really want us to say that?”
For example:
“Please wear a thong on the day.”
I understand the feeling. I’m sure the intention is to get her thinking about going to a hotel from the start. I also understand that it’s meant to prevent her from turning you down after dinner.
But she might not even show up on the day. She could wake up that morning and think, “Actually, I’d rather not go today.”
Our staff will usually pass along requests from the man, but there are also requests where I feel it’s not a good idea to increase the chances of a last-minute cancellation yourself.
When you’re communicating directly on LINE, without staff in between, you may be writing even more extreme things.
There’s no question that the person who cancels at the last minute is primarily at fault. But I think it’s also worth considering whether you’re creating those circumstances yourself.
I’m in Seattle.
Even counting everything, I’ve had around 20 dates. There was one cancellation the day before, but other than that, I’ve met them every time. No complaints here.
Your odds seem pretty poor.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’ve had offers similar to the questioner’s, but I’ve never been stood up.
There have only been two incidents: once, the woman was in an accident the night before and the date had to be canceled; another time, she was unable to finish work as scheduled and arrived very late on the day.
In the case of the major delay, the woman contacted me through the club shortly beforehand, so a staff member stepped in and joined me for dinner. I actually had a pretty enjoyable time dining with the staff member. The woman arrived after dinner, so I remember parting ways with the staff member and then having tea with her.
When the date was canceled the night before, I contacted the restaurant, and they kindly canceled the reservation without charging a cancellation fee, saying I was welcome to use the restaurant another time.
If the date is scheduled well in advance, unexpected circumstances can come up and make it suddenly impossible to attend.
Also, with a letter date, there may be cases where a woman ends up making plans despite not really wanting to, simply because she feels pressured by a man she has never even met. I think it’s best to understand in advance that letter dates carry that kind of risk in exchange for having a lower setting fee.
