My first question. I’m a 28-year-old office worker.

Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here, answering as well. Thanks for your question. > I’ve become greedy, and my desire for more money just won’t stop. How can I ever be satisfied? Hmm. Do you still only have one partner? If you increase the number of similar partners to five, you’ll make ¥1 million a month. If you date ten men, you’ll make ¥2 million a month. Meeting ten men twice a month means spending a total of 20 days on dates, so I’d say that’s probably about the upper limit for maintaining a manageable schedule. Try finding nine more. I think that should ease your frustration somewhat. > I’m taking advantage of my papa’s feelings for me and becoming a bad woman. I don’t think that makes you a bad woman. The real question is whether the men are satisfied. Some athletes earn hundreds of millions of yen every year by showcasing their muscles and skills, but I don’t think they see themselves as doing anything wrong. Sponsors pay because they see value in it, and ordinary people go to watch them compete. If their performance declines and people become less satisfied, their income will probably drop as well. I’m not saying it’s exactly the same, but it’s similar in that sense. If the men are satisfied, I don’t think you’re a bad woman at all. Besides, men can tell when a woman has no genuine interest in them. They’ll lower the allowance or end the relationship. Right now, you apparently have enough appeal for someone to give you ¥200,000 a month. And I think that appeal comes not just from your looks, but from your personality as well.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. About what? What exactly are you frustrated with? Are you thinking, “How much could I have earned if I’d started at 20?” Let’s take some time to sort through feelings you may not even fully understand yourself. Being able to feel happy from having just a little of what you need—that’s the secret to maintaining a mutually happy relationship. Right now, you may simply be reacting to things like money. If you keep putting on an act for the other person, it won’t last long—or rather, you’ll be the one who starts to suffer. Why not start by filling your own heart first, and putting on an act for yourself? Why not give yourself permission to let go?

I’m Taro, a male member. You do want the money, but you feel guilty about making money by becoming a bad woman, right? Put another way, you want the money but don’t want to become a villain. Sorry for putting it so bluntly, but I think it’s easier to understand when you say things frankly. If that’s the case, simply “putting on an act” won’t solve the problem. No matter how well you act, you still know that you’re acting, don’t you? So it can’t really be a solution. To resolve this, it may help to justify the version of yourself who’s acting. You could tell yourself, “By acting this way, I’m making my papa (a male supporter) happy, so there’s nothing wrong with it.” Or, “There are aspects of me that genuinely like my papa; I’m just emphasizing those parts, so I’m not really acting.” There’s no doubt that you like money, so you don’t need to change that fundamental motivation. Instead, come up with your own reasoning for justifying the means. You don’t have to explain it to anyone else, so no matter how strange the logic may sound, it’s fine. What matters is being able to convince yourself completely. Ah, that came out badly. Put more positively, I mean that you should have a “belief” in what you’re doing. If you can do that, you should be able to enjoy a happy, prosperous life. Happiness depends on how you choose to see things. You already have what you want; your only problem is how to feel about it. In that sense, you’re already well on your way. Many other people are suffering because they can’t obtain what they want. Compared with that, I think your problem is actually fairly simple.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Desire is like seawater—the more you drink, the thirstier you become. To be truly satisfied, you’ll need to grow as a person and learn to know when you have enough. A human life is around eighty years, so you still have more than half of yours ahead of you. The value you currently possess will only continue to decline, so what do you intend to do by letting your desires keep growing? I think it would be better to find new sources of value to replace what you’re gradually losing. Fortunately, your papa (a male supporter) is giving you the leeway of 200,000 yen a month. You should think about how to use that to enrich the rest of your life. This is no time to get carried away with designer goods. After a few years, they’ll just be disposable items that end up as trash. To me, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) means having a relationship through an allowance. Maintaining any kind of relationship may sometimes require you to play a role, but I don’t think pretending is all there is to it.