Do you think there are women who are naturals at papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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I have several friends who have tried papa-katsu, but most of them complain a lot, and they all quit within a year.
On the other hand, I absolutely love papa-katsu. It’s been four years now, and I keep saving more and more money while my happiness keeps growing too (´・ω・). I also have a high chance of meeting good papas, and I currently have three generous (well-paying) papas. I’m close with them, and they’re like life mentors to me.
Even men I’ve parted ways with in the past because we no longer had time to meet still frequently contact me, thankfully, saying things like, “I like you better than the other girls. Could we meet again?” Apparently, they like that I’m not overly focused on money. Even though I should be earning the most from them…
It makes me happy because I can tell they didn’t just contact me again on a whim—they genuinely came to like me for who I am as well.
Unlike all the criticism surrounding papa-katsu, I’ve had nothing but good experiences. Am I just unusual? Or are my ethics simply broken? My friends think I’m a strange girl, for better or worse.
Even though I must be lying to many of my papas—the papas think they’re the only ones I’m seeing—somehow, every one of them seems happy. They tell me they’re glad they met me, and I don’t feel guilty about what I’m doing at all.
I secretly find myself grinning and thinking that maybe I’m a natural at papa-katsu, haha. But I’m not the only woman like this, right…? There must be women like me among you too, right?
I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this too.
Thanks for your question.
I do think naturally gifted papa-katsu women exist.
For starters, there’s a big difference in being able to talk normally with a man more than 30 years older than you. I think most people feel like they’re speaking normally, but those who are naturally good at it seem especially skilled at getting close to people.
The same goes for an adult relationship (intimate). Men are very perceptive about that kind of thing.
When I say she isn’t overly focused on money, men understand that money is naturally part of the arrangement.
Even so, if it comes across more like she’s genuinely enjoying being together than simply wanting money, she seems like a woman who isn’t all about the money.
I get the feeling that naturally gifted women make up about one in ten. But, put another way, you may not meet one until you’ve dated ten women—or, in the worst case, met twenty before finding even one.
That’s probably why you end up wanting to see her again.
The strongest ones are those who genuinely enjoy themselves.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
You’re amazing, questioner. “Papa-katsu” may sound simple, but not many people can do it naturally. If men are telling you things like that, I think you’re the real deal. Being able to do it so effortlessly is truly impressive. Let me say it again: you’re a rare talent.
That’s what you wanted me to say, right? So I wrote it. I’m not trying to be mean—I genuinely mean half of it. The other half is that it’s a shame how your question contains hints of putting other women down. This isn’t something you can openly talk about with everyone, so no matter what, people who act cocky about it are pretty embarrassing. And that attitude of calling people who dance to their own lies “easy marks” is also complete crap, in my opinion. I can’t speak for everyone else, but I don’t think it’s untrue that many people get deceived and go, “Woohoo!” while getting all excited.
If you’re a member, could you write “I’m a naturally gifted papa-katsu girl” in your profile comments? That way, we can avoid any unfortunate accidents—for both of us.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Everything about it is fun.
There’s nothing quite this enjoyable.
When you click, it’s heaven; when you don’t, it’s hell.
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Seattle.
The first woman I met was 19 and an A-type—she was exactly like that.
She didn’t seem to have any men in her life, though I’m sure there were plenty. Despite being only 19, she was fun to talk to no matter how long we chatted. She had the look of a black-haired idol and the brains to get into a top university.
That kind of income won’t last forever, so save 200 million yen while you’re young. Once you do, life will be a breeze.
Just don’t waste your money.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I believe that how we interact with people depends on whether we can recognize where the person in front of us stands and genuinely engage with them—not just in交際倶楽部.
If you feel that it’s probably better not to get too deeply involved, you’re able to keep a little distance. If you feel that it’s okay to get involved more deeply, you’re able to do that as well.
In that sense, rather than being a naturally gifted papa-katsu woman, I think she might better be described as someone who makes you feel comfortable.
Also, unlike ordinary relationships between men and women, I feel that papa-katsu tends to lead to more complaints when things can’t be kept self-contained within papa-katsu itself.
Since we’re men who belong to a dating club, I’d appreciate it if you could understand that, to begin with, we’re timid men who can’t pursue this kind of relationship in ordinary society, and then choose to be involved with us.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’ve often thought that, just like anything else, some people are suited to dating through an exclusive dating club, while others aren’t.
I feel that I’m well suited to it because I’ve been able to enjoy these relationships without any unpleasant experiences. On the other hand, when I read questions in anonymous Q&A forums or listen to women talk about their experiences, I realize that there really are people who aren’t suited to dating clubs.
So yes, I do believe there are women who are naturally suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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