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Feb 8, 2021 18:33
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I feel that wearing heels on a date looks lovely and feminine, but they make me so tall that I often end up being taller than my date.
A few men have asked me whether I usually wear heels, which made me wonder if they’d rather I didn’t. So I go on dates in flat pumps, but I’m still not sure how they actually feel about it or what kind of shoes I should wear. Should I ask whether it’s okay to wear heels? Also, do you care about your date’s height?
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here, and I’ll answer too.
Thanks for your question.
Men who make offers and care about a woman’s height do look at her height. That’s what the profile is for.
If you received an offer, it means either he was fine with your height or he simply doesn’t care about height. So if you like wearing heels, I think it’s perfectly fine to wear them as usual.
> A few men asked me, “Do you usually wear heels?”
They probably thought you were about the same height, so they met you thinking it would be fine, only to realize that you were taller than them. They may have just been wondering whether it was because of your shoes and whether you wore heels for the date or normally wore them anyway.
If they ask whether you usually wear them, you could say something like:
“I thought it would be nicer to look feminine since it’s a date.”
You could also reply:
“I’ll try going without heels next time.”
If he doesn’t say anything, you can go without heels next time. If he says, “No, no, heels look better,” then you’ll know to wear them again.
That said, they may have just been saying whatever came to mind and might not actually care much about it.
After you’ve been seeing each other for a few months, you might mention, “When we first met, you asked whether I usually wore heels, remember?”
He’ll probably say, “Did I say that?”
He’ll have mostly forgotten about it. It’s really that minor, so I don’t think you need to worry about it.
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I’m Gaku, a male member.
Even though I’m short myself, I like tall women, so I’ll make an offer as long as she’s comfortable with it.
At around 170 cm, I don’t think that’s particularly tall these days, so you probably don’t need to worry about it. It might be a good idea to write something like, “I don’t mind my partner’s height,” in your profile comments.
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I’ll answer as a staff member as well.
During the consultation, we ask about your preferences regarding a woman’s height, and I’d say roughly 30% of our male clients have a preference when it comes to height.
High heels make the legs look longer and more attractive, so I think they can enhance the appeal of taller women even more.
The gentleman who made you the offer has likely looked carefully at your profile, so for your first date, I think it’s perfectly fine to wear heels without worrying about it.
Other
I’m Taro, a male member.
Since your height is known in advance, I don’t think anyone who minds it would make you an offer. Heels around 5–7 cm should be within expectations, so you should feel free to wear them.
Heels of 10 cm or more can change your overall impression quite a bit, so I’d avoid them for the first meeting. From the second meeting onward, it would be best to check beforehand.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Sorry, but height is something I pay fairly close attention to. I have a particular height range that feels just right to me, so I tend to make offers within that range.
It’s a tricky issue, but height isn’t something you can change yourself, so personally, I think you should feel free to wear whatever heels you like with confidence.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
When I make an offer, I don’t look at the height listed on a woman’s profile. So there have been times when I was surprised at the first meeting by how tall someone was.
I don’t often meet women whose eye level is close to mine, so that’s what surprises me. Based on that, I think a man’s reaction to your height depends on how tall he is himself.
As for heels, I’m not concerned about their height either. Sorry I’m such a boring guy, especially after you’ve put so much thought into this(笑)
Since women’s profiles include their height, it’s probably safe to assume that men who avoid taller women generally check that information. If a man makes you an offer even after seeing your height, you can assume he simply doesn’t care about height. So I think you should wear whatever shoes you like.
It would be ridiculous for an arrangement not to continue just because of something as trivial as height.