I’m a female member in my 20s. I look forward to your advice.
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Whenever I meet my papa, he usually tells me the same stories.
At first, I thought that since he’s about the same age as my grandfather, maybe it was understandable that he forgot things. But it happens so often that I’ve started wondering if he’s simply spending too much time with too many girls and forgetting what we did together.
Apparently, he’s been registered for three years and has made offers to many women.
Every time he repeats the same stories or asks me the same questions, I feel sad. We had fun on our last date, but then I get disappointed and wonder if I was the only one who enjoyed it. I also feel empty, as if I’m being reminded that I don’t rank very highly among all the girls he sees.
Does this happen to any of you? When someone repeats a conversation, do you tell them, “You already told me that,” or “You already asked me that”?
I’ve never been able to say anything because I’m worried that telling him, “You asked me that last time,” or “We already talked about that,” might hurt our relationship…
Would men be upset if they were told that?
My papa can still do his job properly, so I don’t think he has dementia. He’s almost 60.
Thank you in advance.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this too.
Thank you for your question.
I think most people sometimes end up telling the same story more than once. Some people simply listen as if nothing happened, while others point it out by saying, “You told me that story the other day.”
Either way, I think it’s fine as long as the relationship between the two of you is good.
I don’t think it has anything to do with how little you matter to them. If anything, people may repeat themselves because they feel close to you.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I think it’s perfectly fine to point it out casually, like, “You’ve told me that before,” or, “That’s the third time!” You two seem pretty close, so why let it slide? lol
He may be seeing other women and telling them the same stories too. But even if that’s the case, they’ve probably pointed out that he’s repeating himself. On the other hand, he might be worried about you because you never say anything, thinking, “She listens to the same story every time as if it’s the first time… Could she be developing early-onset dementia?”
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
That’s something every man past a certain age tends to do, so don’t worry.
If it’s a friend or someone you’re close to, you might say, “How many times are you going to tell me that?” But when it’s a client, you should listen with a fresh reaction every time, even if it’s the same story.
There’s actually a lot of depth to this. Since you already know how the story unfolds, you can choose responses that naturally lead to the next topic. The energy of your reactions also affects the speaker’s energy.
When you respond well, they may suddenly open up about something they’ve never mentioned before.
Give it a try.
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I’m a male member, Date◎Yume.
> Since my papa is still able to do his job properly, I don’t think he has dementia (he’s nearly 60).
If that’s the case, maybe you should take the lead and steer the conversation yourself（笑）
Why not bring up topics with a little playfulness?
Also, if having the same conversations is emotionally painful for you, switching to a different papa might be an option too...
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