Most people who answer questions here seem to treat their partners with genuine affection—not just wanting to give them money, but wanting them to be happy and wanting to do things for them. My papa doesn’t seem to have those feelings toward me, and the cheaper it is, the better it seems to suit him. It painfully comes across that he wants to spend as little money on me as possible. My allowance is 30,000 yen per time for sex without a condom, plus a meal at Saizeriya or Komeda.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. Thank you for your question. > I’m starting to lose sight of how I should cherish someone who never properly accepts my love. I do wonder whether giving presents is really the same as showing love, but I think many men aren’t very expressive or aren’t good at showing their feelings. It’s possible he’s actually very happy about the gifts. That said, if you give him presents every time, he may get used to them and appreciate them less, so I think giving them only on special occasions would be fine. Other than that, I think it’s best to interact with him assuming that he is happy, without doubting it. However, if you feel that his allowance is too low, I suggest continuing to value your current papa while also taking steps to attract offers from other men. Your love is getting through to him.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. I get the feeling this is less about the “amount of love” and more about the “amount of money.” But does he show you affection in other ways? If his allowance is small but he’s full of love and even gets possessive, then it’s fine to seek that love—if that’s what you want. But if what you’re looking for is more money, I think you’d be better off trying to find another papa (a male supporter).

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I’m with Taro on this one! > I can painfully feel that she doesn’t want to spend as much money on me as possible. That may well be how your papa feels. But— > I think long and hard about the gifts I give her. I’m sure he appreciates the gifts and things like that. That may be why he thinks you’re cute and the relationship has continued. Maybe this is a battle of wills with your papa. Why not try approaching the relationship with a sense of play, without overthinking things too much—wondering, “How about this?” or “What about that?” Whether a relationship continues has little to do with whether someone is beautiful or unattractive. What matters is that both the man and the woman feel comfortable with each other as partners.

I’m Taro, a male member. That’s another pretty extreme example. I agree that it’s best to start by giving, but even so, you’re giving in far too much. Wouldn’t it be better to push and pull a little to draw more of a reaction from her? It doesn’t sound like she’s treating you badly, so if you don’t have any other offers, you could continue for now and try different approaches. But she seems quite difficult, so it’s probably best to take your time without setting your expectations too high.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who enjoys spending a whole day on dates—going strawberry picking, watching movies, or having fun at theme parks. Why not try looking at things from a different perspective? Seen from another angle, you may be able to recognize some of the good things about your current situation. What exactly is causing your frustration right now? Your current papa? The offers you’re receiving? The way you’re living? Your life up to this point? What is it? If it’s your papa, you can simply stop the monthly arrangement... But your dissatisfaction with your current situation really seems to be showing. You may even have a precious papa right in front of you. For now, why not try finding something that brings you peace or comfort? As you search, you’re sure to come across something that warms your heart. P.S. I believe that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in its truest sense is about sharing not only money, but also emotional space and abundance. I hope that one day, whether they’re a papa, not a papa, or simply another woman, you’ll be surrounded by such experienced mentors in life. Also, if you become fixated solely on the amount of money, you may lose sight of the kindness and support you receive from not only your papa but also those around you. You may also find it harder to recognize how fulfilled you already are. So take deep breaths and keep moving forward, firmly appreciating the life you’re living.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Everyone has different financial circumstances and ways of spending money, and some relationships in life simply don’t work out. Move on to the next one. I’m sure you’ll find a good connection.