A question about money: Men, would you be put off if you found out that your favorite woman was actually making a huge amount of money from stocks?
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I’ve been into saving money since before I started seeing my papa, and I’ve saved around 40 million yen. Since my papa and I are quite close, I told him how much I had saved (and he honestly said it was amazing), but without telling him, I’ve actually invested that 40 million yen over the past year or so and grown it to more than 50 million yen. I still trade stocks every day, and I’m making around a 30% annual return. I’ve been studying hard too, but somehow time has passed without me being able to tell my papa.
My papa thinks I’m still living on roughly a 100,000-yen monthly salary, and that the only impressive thing about me is how much I managed to save in the past.
My living expenses haven’t really changed, just as he says, but I feel like he’d be completely put off if he found out that I’m steadily increasing my assets through stock trading. (Once, when we were watching TV together, there was a young woman who traded cryptocurrency, and my papa said, “I absolutely hate women who act all cocky about this kind of investment. The best kind of woman is humble and modest.”)
Men, would you be pretty shocked if a woman you thought was living a frugal, modest life was actually trading stocks like crazy...?
I spend a lot of time with my papa, and whenever it looks like he might notice me trading during the day or late at night, I get nervous. I don’t want to break up with him, but I’m starting to worry about whether I can keep hiding it. Sorry for bringing up such a vague, anxiety-driven concern...
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
Thank you for your question.
> Would a man be put off if he found out that a woman had actually made a lot of money investing in stocks?
I don’t think many men would dislike it, but there are still some who might.
So I think it would be best not to tell him and to continue seeing each other as you have been.
It would be sad if things ended simply because he happened to be the kind of man who would be bothered by it.
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This is Joe.
It’s great that you’re not just saving, but also investing your money.
The most impressive papa-katsu woman I’ve ever known had two bankbooks with nine-figure savings. There’s always someone better, so keep working hard!
Not to overstep, but as Mac says, I think the most important thing is to keep quiet.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That’s impressive. I tend to spend money as soon as I earn it, so I really admire people who can save without spending.
Personally, I’m not interested in dating a woman who lives an austere, frugal lifestyle, but I would be interested in dating a woman who manages her assets well. I’m not really into women who act all high and mighty, though…
Unless you really love your papa (a male supporter), I think you’d be better off dating someone who shares your values—it’ll be less stressful.
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I’m in Seattle.
For the most part, it’s just as Mac described.
The most excited I ever got was when I passed 200 million yen. That was the goal I’d set for myself, thinking it might be enough to live on for the rest of my life.
The man you’re seeing dislikes women who are into cryptocurrency, so it might be better to keep that to yourself.
You shouldn’t be satisfied with 50 million yen. Aim for 100 million or more. Trying to double it all at once is risky, so keep up your current pace.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
It’s amazing that you managed to save ¥40 million as a hobby. You also started investing at a great time.
Since you’d already mentioned the amount of your savings once, it probably would’ve been better to bring up investing in the same conversation, but you missed your chance. It’s true that some people dislike that sort of thing, and judging from what you’ve written, there’s a possibility this man is one of them.
Either way, having kept it hidden doesn’t make a great impression. If you want to test the waters, why not bring it up as though you’re thinking, “I’d like to start investing from now on”? If he doesn’t seem too resistant, gradually bring the conversation closer to your actual situation: “I actually tried it” → “I made some money.” Eventually, you should be able to catch up to the truth. Also, saying, “I only want to increase my assets; I’m not going to change my standard of living,” is a point in your favor, so use it effectively.
If that still doesn’t work, go underground. Tell him outright that you took his advice and stopped investing, while continuing behind the scenes. Be prepared to take that lie to your grave. You’ll probably end up living a double life, but you might as well enjoy it like it’s a spy movie.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
Personally, I’d be happy and would welcome it—I’d celebrate with her.
Is there a reason you wouldn’t want that?
That said, I wouldn’t want her to keep it from me, so I’d want her to tell me as soon as possible.
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