I have a papa I've been seeing for quite a long time, and he rents an apartment for me and supports me financially. But I think I might get jealous imagining him telling other girls how cute they are. When I'm beside him, I can also see his incoming messages. Whenever I see them, I can't help feeling a little upset.

Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer as well. Thank you for your question. Why not try saying something like: “Please don’t message other people when you’re with me. It makes me miserable with jealousy.” If he still does it, I think part of him may want to make you jealous, so at that point, it might be best to say nothing and simply endure it. > Please tell me how to stop feeling jealous. It’s easy. Try dating several men at the same time. I think your jealousy will disappear.

I’m Taro, a male member. Let’s develop the ability to ignore things. Don’t look at what you dislike, and even if you do see it, pretend you didn’t. Philosophically speaking, what you don’t know is essentially the same as not existing. If something bothers you, just erase it from your mind.

The moment I woke up, my wife called me “you bastard!” and launched into a fierce whipping attack: “At least wash the bottles from the alcohol you drank,” and “The protein’s dried solid in the glass—I can’t get it off!” I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. There’s a big difference between a girl you’ve been seeing for a long time and one you’ve only been seeing for six months or a year or two. If you’ve been together for a long time, you also need to keep providing the other man with the benefits of that relationship. Since you mentioned the apartment as well, I think the man you’re seeing feels a sense of security and naturalness with you that he doesn’t get from the other girls. If you calmly analyze the difference between a girl he’s been seeing for a long time and the others, you may also gain a sense of reassurance. With someone you haven’t known long, the relationship naturally involves being considerate, so she won’t complain or scold you. She won’t get angry or point things out, and she won’t show her hysterical side either. But as the relationship grows longer, those sides naturally start to come out. She’ll say what she really wants to say. That’s what makes a close, special relationship genuine, so I think you should use those everyday interactions to build a more natural relationship and deepen your trust. From a man’s perspective, being cautioned or complained at out of genuine concern doesn’t feel bad. It can even provide a sense of security that isn’t possible with a girl you’ve only been seeing for a short time. If you can create that kind of difference, the relationship can become a comfortable one for both of you.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. You must really like him if you’re feeling jealous. I think it’s because you have those feelings that you enjoy the time you spend with your papa. Sometimes, you have to put up with things to keep enjoying your time together. When your jealousy starts getting stronger, one option is to do something to take your mind off it. For example, when your papa starts using his phone, you could use yours too.

I’m date◎yume, a male member. At Gorakubu, I’m fully committed to making each woman feel like “you’re the only one” (lol). And if you’re wondering whether I say “you’re the only one!” outside Gorakubu too—the answer is yes. Of course, there’s no physical relationship involved, but I’m having a good time (lol). As for your situation, I think you should appreciate the man and just “put up with it.” Life is one long series of compromises. If you really can’t stand it, you can always end the relationship… But maybe you could wait and see until someone better comes along.