For the men here, when you win over someone you’ve made an offer to and go to a hotel or somewhere similar with her for the first time, do you feel a sense of accomplishment or excitement? I’m curious what goes through your mind when you pursue a new woman.
I sometimes wonder if that excitement is why you keep making offers one after another, even when you already have a favorite.
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When you go to a hotel for the first time, I think there’s a sense of excitement because you haven’t been there together yet.
But I feel that the sense of accomplishment comes afterward—when you’ve entered an adult relationship and she turns out to be exactly the kind of woman you expected.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I do feel excited when I’m about to go to a hotel for the first time, but I wouldn’t call it a sense of accomplishment.
At that point, I don’t think we’ve even reached the starting line of an ongoing relationship yet. So it’s too early to feel accomplished—I’m simply excited to find out what she’ll be like in bed.
I offer to meet new women because I want to have more favorites I can build stable relationships with. With this kind of dating, parting ways is bound to happen eventually, whether because a woman gets married or for some other reason. To avoid ever feeling the loss of having no favorite partners left, I’d like to have several women I’m fond of.
You can’t find a favorite partner right away, so I keep offering to meet new women and challenging myself to see whether we can develop that kind of relationship.
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
I felt a real sense of accomplishment. After all, I’d joined a dating club and gone through so many things I’d never experienced before—from having my offers rejected to even suspecting someone of misrepresenting her relationship preferences. So I assumed this very young woman in front of me would probably turn me down too…
Then she said, “Okay!” I was honestly stunned and asked, “Really?” (笑)
It’s been almost two years since then, and I’ve been all about telling her, “You’re the only one!” I’ve stayed focused on her and stuck to my original intentions.
To this day, I haven’t met any other women.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I don’t try to sweet-talk them, lol.
If there’s anything I can promote to women, it would probably just be my “safety features.”
When I ask, “Would an allowance of ○ be okay after this?”, I see it as nothing more and nothing less than the woman deciding whether she’s willing to go to a hotel for that amount.
Even if I already have a favorite, the reason I make offers is simply that I want to hook up with other women too. Lust. Pure lust.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Dating clubs are ridiculously easy compared with ordinary romance. That said, you still have to follow certain steps before you can go to a hotel, so there’s a real sense of achievement. It’s true that the sense of accomplishment increases in the order of Type D < C < B < A. Even so, you can get that far through technique. So what you’re really feeling accomplished about is successfully carrying out the technical aspects.
The difficult part comes after that: can you turn it into an emotional connection rather than one based on physicality and money? That’s an issue from the very first meeting, but it goes deep. You can end up becoming intimate even in situations where you normally couldn’t outside a setting like this. It’s easy to get on base, but making it all the way back to home plate is difficult—that’s the feeling.
There’s definitely an excitement to receiving a new offer, including the thrill of chance. It’s the anticipation of the unknown. But every now and then, you meet a woman who can build a relationship powerful enough to sweep all that away. That’s probably the true value of dating clubs: the sheer number of times you get to step up to the plate. Whether you swing, and whether you make it all the way home after hitting, is up to you. Good luck.
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When I get home, my wife says things like, “Why would you throw it there?” “Why would you put it there?” “Why would you do that?” and “Why do I have to tell you this every single time?” every minute… Is my wife a stalker? No, wait—is she keeping watch over me? Following me around… Actually, I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who’s constantly getting scolded.
> When you go to a hotel or somewhere similar, do you feel a sense of accomplishment or excitement?
I don’t feel a sense of accomplishment.
I feel excited when we meet and the chemistry is good. It’s that feeling of enjoying each other’s company, feeling happy, and getting excited.
When I sense there might be a chance for an offer, I end up making one…
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