I met a wonderful male supporter and quit, but I’m thinking about registering again. I’ve started to feel lonely because it seems he’s gradually losing interest, and I also began to hope I might meet another good person. The man I’m seeing is still registered with the club, so I’d like to avoid him finding out that I’ve registered again. He also mentioned having connections with other members, so I’d like to avoid those people finding out as well. Does the club keep track of the connections between its male members? Is it possible to register again without them finding out at all? Thank you in advance.

Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here as well. Thank you for your question. We can only know about connections between male members to the extent that the men themselves have told our staff. So while it may be difficult to guarantee that it will never get out, I think it’s possible to make it very unlikely. 1. First, explain the situation to the staff. 2. Ask them to hide your profile from the other man. 3. Do the same for anyone connected to him, as far as you know. 4. Change your club name when you re-register. 5. Use blurred photos. With steps ④ and ⑤, neither your name nor your face should be recognizable, so I think it generally won’t get out. However, when you receive an offer, the man may ask to see an unblurred photo. At that point, there’s a possibility that someone who knows him could recognize you from the photo. In that case, if you tell the staff that you want to know who they’re sending the unblurred photo to, you should be able to figure out who it got out through if it does happen. If they can’t tell you the man’s name, I think it’s fine to say that you’ll only accept offers based on blurred photos.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. When you re-register, you’re displayed right at the top and stand out—that’s the whole point—so it seems difficult to do it without being noticed. Since this is club activity, even if the re-registration is discovered, it doesn’t cause any problems for men because they think completely differently from women. From the other man’s perspective, finding out that I re-registered has actually been a good thing. He feels reassured that my previous withdrawal or temporary leave was genuine, which deepens the trust between us and allows us to talk more openly. We’ve continued seeing each other as a good arrangement. Also, the club doesn’t share information across its network, and it doesn’t proactively get involved in private matters such as where someone lives, their income, or their company name. Since this information is kept confidential so men can join with peace of mind, the club doesn’t have a grasp of it.

I’m Kazu, a male member. First of all, I don’t think the club has a complete grasp of the connections among its male members. Even though I probably communicate with the staff relatively often, they don’t seem to have a full picture of the relationships between members. So I don’t think it’s possible to re-register with an absolute guarantee that you won’t be found out. If we’re talking about whether there’s a possibility, then yes, I think you could still be found out even if you register with another dating club.