Does being able to have sex with several women—even if it’s a relationship involving money—and being flattered and getting along with them give men confidence and motivation??

I’m Taro, a male member. If all you want is to pay someone to flatter you, wouldn’t you go to a hostess club or somewhere like that? At least, I get no pleasure from being fawned over. I assume most men are the same. That’s probably why we meet other women. Personally, I’m pretty straightforward, so I stop seeing women who act that way fairly quickly. What I’m looking for is a woman who will interact with me genuinely. Of course, there’s still a clear boundary in place because this is a relationship through a dating club. Even a man who isn’t particularly perceptive can usually tell, to some extent, which women see him as a customer and which don’t. I meet a lot of women to find someone like that, but once I do, that’s enough. I don’t need several partners. I’m not judging men who are looking for an intimate relationship. But it’s not as though simply having something physical happen is enough. I don’t want commercial sex or sex as a form of hospitality. There was a time when I wanted to meet all kinds of women, but after trying that, I got bored. I’m not sure whether to call it trust or a sense of security, but these days I value relationships with even a little emotional connection.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. Thanks for your question. > Is being fawned over by lots of women what gives them the motivation to keep going in life...? If many men placed the greatest importance on being fawned over, then they should be satisfied with Dating Type A, and offers would probably come regardless of the woman’s dating type. But in reality, that’s not the case. So I get the impression that it ultimately comes down to whether they can enjoy the overall experience, including the woman’s dating type.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. I’ve always believed and acted on the assumption that men have sex on their minds 100% of the time, while women have 100% non-sex-related things on theirs.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. My motivation? Put bluntly, it’s “to have sex.” I used to think that having one good dating partner was enough, but I was wrong. Unfortunately, my libido keeps coming back, so I find myself making offers to new women. So, despite all the lofty things I’ve said up to now, part of me is thinking, “In the end, it really is just sexual desire, isn’t it?”

I’m Kazu, a male member. Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) itself doesn’t really boost my confidence or motivation. But when I listen to women talk about their papa-katsu problems on first dates, it does make me feel more confident—I often wonder how everyone manages to make so many poor decisions. What motivates me to do papa-katsu is enjoying good conversation and having pleasurable sex with women I genuinely care about. With COVID limiting our options for going out so much, it’s a valuable way to have some fun.