Are there many men who can love several papa-katsu women at the same time?

I’m Tetsu, a male member. It’s not exactly the same as loving someone, but men can be intimate with women they don’t even like, and they can also say “I like you” without actually meaning it. I guess it’s like they’ll do anything to satisfy their desires in the moment. Even when I’m seeing multiple women, I still rank them. In my case, the woman in first place hardly ever changes, but from second place onward, they’re all pretty much neck and neck. So yes, I want to keep backups around, and I want to be intimate with women of different body types.

I’m Taro, a male member. I’ve been advised before to “have two, not just one.” The idea was that focusing on only one person makes you too emotionally invested, while having an alternative gives you more emotional leeway to handle things maturely. That, in turn, leaves a better impression on the woman and helps the relationship last longer. I tend to ignore that advice and focus on one person once I have a main partner. Otherwise, I can’t get emotionally invested, and whether things work out or not, I simply find it more enjoyable that way—so I’m somewhat knowingly going against the advice. Until I find a main partner, though, I may have several arrangements running in parallel. In that case, they’re all technically secondary, so there’s no ranking among them. As for body type, I roughly divide people into four categories based on height and bust size. If I already have someone in a given category, I generally don’t make new offers. Realistically, personality, character, and compatibility are more important, but you can’t know those until you meet, so at the offer stage, I choose based on appearance. Part of me also feels that, like with food, it’s best to have a well-balanced variety. I don’t really think in terms of having a backup. There are plenty of candidates at the club, and taking on too many people means higher maintenance costs. If you want to have sex every single week without fail, that’s a different story, but otherwise I think an on-demand approach is more efficient.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. He probably doesn’t love you, does he? I think he’s just seeing several people to suit his own convenience.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Since a dating club is a place to pursue relationships, I think there are many different ways to date the women you meet there. Just as every man is different, every woman is different too, so naturally each relationship will take its own form. Originally, I don’t think there really needs to be a distinction between a “main” and a “secondary” partner. But as you continue seeing someone, you may come across a person who feels like the best fit for you. That person would then become what people commonly call your “main.” Having a “main” is like competing in a quiz championship: you have to keep defeating invisible rivals. That said, within the broad category of dating clubs, if you’re selecting someone based on your own preferences, you could also say that the woman in front of you generally meets your standards. If that’s the case, some male members may decide—because of various circumstances—to abandon the main-and-secondary way of thinking and focus on just one person, staying true to their original intentions.（笑）

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well. Thank you for your question. Rather than thinking in terms of a main partner and a secondary one, I think some men treat everyone equally. As for body types, everyone has their preferences, so they probably tend to date women with similar body types. They may go on a date with women of various body types once, but I feel that many men ultimately reaffirm that a certain body type is what they personally prefer.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I don’t have any data on whether many men are capable of loving multiple women, but I’d say it’s probably almost all men. In my case, the main reason I have multiple partners is that I can have different kinds of conversations with each woman. My main partner is the one I’m most comfortable with and have the deepest relationship with, and she’s my main partner because I have the best sex with her. I honestly don’t know which matters more to me: feeling comfortable with someone or having good sex. One thing my main partner has over my secondary partners is that it’s easier to make plans to see her again. But I feel that’s also related to how comfortable we are with each other, so I’m not sure whether it’s an important factor in its own right. As the questioner suspects, having a secondary partner can also serve as insurance in case I break up with my main partner. If I no longer had a partner, it would be a little inconvenient because I wouldn’t be able to have sex regularly with someone I’m comfortable with. But that isn’t a particularly important reason. Everyone’s reasons are different, but in my case, I think it’s fair to say that I have multiple partners because I enjoy different kinds of conversation with each woman. I’m not particularly interested in body types. If a certain body type meant that I could have more enjoyable conversations or better sex with someone, then I’d care about it—but of course, body type has nothing to do with that, so I’m not interested. Since I’m not particularly well-endowed, I prefer a body type without too much flesh around the thighs or buttocks, but I also don’t want someone so thin that her bones dig into me. That’s about it. Finally, I don’t actually think of my partners as “main” and “secondary.” When I used the term “main” here, I simply meant “the woman I see most frequently.” Writing that out every time would be tedious, so I used “main” for convenience.

I’m Kamihikoki, a male member. I suppose it varies from person to person, but as the term “polygamy” suggests, my situation is something close to that. I guess I tend to have more than one main partner. Oh, and every now and then, someone truly perfect comes along... They’re neither a main partner nor a side partner. What would you call them? A valuable experience? Just for fun? An added bonus? A chance to unwind?