What does happiness mean to all of you? Is it possible to find happiness through club activities?
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Earlier, I came across Mac’s words:
“People who can’t feel happy in the present won’t be happy no matter what they do in the future. Please make an effort in a direction that allows you to live happily in the present.”
They made me stop and think about my own happiness, but I still don’t really understand it, and I’m starting to dislike my heart, which is always starved for happiness.
For some reason, I feel empty even when I’m out having fun with friends. Even when I eat delicious food, I can’t really taste it—I’m just going through each day as usual. I have no particular problems and am living happily enough, but ordinary days no longer feel fulfilling.
In a way, I can understand why some people end up turning to drugs… though I don’t have the courage to do that.
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
For me, happiness means living selfishly. “Selfish” tends to have a negative connotation, but I mean living according to my own wishes—doing what I want, when I want.
I often hear people say, “I want to be happy,” but I believe you have to seize your own happiness rather than wait for someone else to make you happy. The only person who can make you happy is yourself.
Going out with friends or eating delicious food—is that really what you want to do? Try asking yourself whether each thing you do is truly something you want.
For example, even when it comes to eating something delicious, what you feel like eating can change depending on your mood. Say you’re in the mood for a beef bowl from Yoshinoya, but someone invites you out for some famous, delicious ramen. Is that really a happy choice? I’d say it’s an unhappy one. Being able to eat a beef bowl when that’s what you’re craving—that’s happiness.
Each thing may seem small, but I believe happiness comes from accumulating these little moments. When you live according to your own wishes, you can live relatively stress-free.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Your post reminded me of that commercial jingle: “What is happiness again, what is happiness again? ♫” I looked it up and apparently it was a hit song released by Sanma Akashiya in 1986. I had no idea he’d released a CD, haha.
I don’t think you’ll find an answer if you start worrying about what happiness really is. To me, happiness means having the things you fundamentally seek fulfilled. Some people love money, some want praise, some want companionship, and others want to show off their power. Everyone’s different. As Kazu wrote, many people are driven by a sense of accomplishment, too.
You can’t figure out what fulfills you just by thinking about it logically. Listen carefully to the voice of your heart and feel it. I feel that people who can’t do that, or who can’t live according to their true feelings, often end up struggling.
To put it more simply: judging from your post, it sounds like ordinary everyday life doesn’t fulfill you. So why not try some kind of adventure? It doesn’t have to be anything dramatic—even something small might do. Pay attention to how you feel afterward. If you’re excited, keep moving in that direction and gradually take it further. By this time next year, you might even be attempting to climb Mount Everest. By then, I’m sure you won’t be troubled anymore.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> What does happiness mean to you? Is it possible to find happiness through participating in the club?
To me, it’s the sense of fulfillment that comes from feeling increasingly satisfied with myself.
It’s not limited to activities through the dating club, either. You can experience it in all kinds of moments—when you’re working, drinking, smoking, or when a woman shows up at the meeting spot.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
When you’re young, you have all kinds of possibilities ahead of you, so there are plenty of choices. At the same time, I think there’s a lot of anxiety, too.
As you get older, though, you’re forced to make one choice after another—choosing something and giving something else up each time. Gradually, you come to accept that some things just aren’t meant to be, and, I can’t quite put it into words, but you start to feel a kind of “happiness by process of elimination.”
You also begin to appreciate “happiness within limitations.”
After turning 35, I’ve gradually let go of a lot of things. I feel lighter, and life has become much easier to live. Finally.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer this as well.
Thank you for your question.
> Is it possible to find happiness through activities at a dating club?
That’s a difficult question, but I think that in any field, some people find happiness while others don’t.
Luck probably plays a part, as does ability, and I also think it depends on the individual’s way of thinking.
I don’t believe there’s one answer that applies to everyone.
It’s possible that you may be dealing with a mental health issue, so it might be a good idea to seek counseling.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m able to find happiness through my club activities. For example, when I give a woman a gift and she’s genuinely happy, I feel glad that I gave it to her. I also feel happy when she says, “With you, Kazu, it’s okay,” and climbs on top of me without a condom. I feel happy when I give a woman oral sex and bring her to climax again and again.
Outside of club activities, I’m happy when I make a big sale at work or write an invoice for a substantial amount, among other things.
Looking at it this way, it seems that, for me, a sense of accomplishment is closely tied to happiness.
Why not try exploring what your own sense of happiness is connected to? Eating with friends or having something delicious doesn’t trigger that feeling for me either. Those things are necessary for maintaining my mental well-being, but they don’t make me consciously think, “I’m happy.” In terms of club activities, I’m grateful when a woman enthusiastically gives me oral sex while getting really into it, but I don’t feel a sense of happiness. That, too, seems to be something I need to maintain my mental well-being.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
Some people resent the past, envy others, or think, “It’s because of this, and that’s why I’m like this now. The future looks very bleak.”
But it’s not that the past can’t change.
The events themselves cannot be changed, but you can forgive them.
By accepting your past, you can change the present—and the future as well.
People tend to be unable to forget what happened in the past, carrying the consequences with them and remaining controlled by them for far too long. It’s such a waste, especially when it’s your own precious life.
We all want to leave behind some proof that we were born into this world.
To be happy in the present and truly feel it, forgive your past. The events that happened, the people you encountered, and the experiences you had are precisely what brought you to where you are now. The moment you can accept that, your past changes.
You change completely, too.
When the past, present, and future become connected, I think that’s when we feel the energy to live in the present, keep living in the present, and move toward the future—as well as a sense of happiness.
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