Please hear me out.

My top two worst offers ever. I’m a Black member. (I had one of the club men show me my profile, and thankfully it only had positive comments, so I was relieved at first lol. As for other women, they had harsh comments like “yellow teeth” and “speaks too casually,” which made me realize that we’re being watched more closely than I expected.) First, number two: a self-proclaimed struggling restaurant owner. He took me to a nearly empty, izakaya-style teppanyaki restaurant. It was someone he knew, and papa kept fawning all over the manager—or whoever he was. The worst part was that, probably because he was in his fifties and didn’t eat much anymore, he tried to make me eat everything he couldn’t finish. Every time he offered me something, I declined, but he kept saying, “You’re young, so you can eat it!” and forcibly transferring food onto my plate. After that, we paid and went to some Japanese-sake specialty bar I’d never heard of. He made me drink a ridiculous amount of sake while I had to listen endlessly to stories about a woman he used to date for years. He claimed he had supported her with a monthly arrangement of 200,000 yen (so little!), but they parted ways when she decided to open her own jewelry shop. He said he had offered to pay her 3 million yen in startup costs, but she turned him down because she wanted to become independent on her own and not rely on anyone else. He said he was deeply moved by her attitude (though there are so many things to question about that story). “So I want to help you grow into that kind of woman, too. I’ll invest in you no matter what it takes,” papa passionately declared. When I asked what kind of investment he meant, he said, “Things like culture, manners, and how to carry yourself as a woman. A life ruled by money will eat away at your soul. I’ll raise you!” I was completely underwhelmed. By this point, four hours had passed. After that, we went to a business hotel, where he gave me an allowance of 30,000 yen..... lol He invited me again, but when I honestly told him that 30,000 yen was too little, he said, “I’m sorry. I’ll pay you 50,000 yen next time. I want to help you grow.” Naturally, I blocked him lol Number one: a self-proclaimed IT company president. We met at a certain station in Tokyo. He took me to a yakiniku restaurant popular with young people. Papa had incredibly bad breath. I endured the meal while grilling the meat, already thinking, “There’s definitely not going to be a next time...” Afterward, he took me to the apartment he claimed was his second home. It was about a ten-minute walk from the restaurant, so we walked there in the freezing winter weather. He went on and on bragging about the interior and layout of the tiny one-bedroom apartment, but how shabby it was completely killed the mood. Then I had to listen to him play the guitar—which he claimed was his hobby—for about 30 minutes. His self-satisfied expression and amateurish playing gave me intense secondhand embarrassment. More than anything, being trapped in that enclosed space with his overpowering breath made me feel like I was going to throw up. After papa’s little masturbation-concert was over, he brought up the allowance. “I’ve only ever done it without protection. I’ve never gotten anyone pregnant. If you’re going to have an arrangement with me, without protection is best.” I immediately refused. I was stuck there for four hours. He gave me an allowance of 10,000 yen.... and walked me to the station. It was a 15-minute walk from the apartment to the station. I wanted to go back alone, but he followed me. It was cold, I didn’t want people seeing me next to some old guy, and I wanted to take a taxi to the station, but I stubbornly didn’t say anything myself. That’s all. Of course, there are plenty of wonderful people too, but I’ve had quite a few offers that made me despairingly think, “Are Universe’s Black members really this pathetic?” I keep reminding myself that the other person is a reflection of yourself, and that if you want to meet good people, you should first work on yourself. But the atmosphere at Universe lately has been absolutely awful—even among the Black members. Recently, I received an offer from an extremely Chinese man, even though I don’t accept foreign nationals. Because the offer came under a Japanese name, I didn’t realize it. The moment we met, I noticed his broken Japanese and his distinctive body odor, which was noticeable even across the table. I told the club afterward, but all I got was a very casual apology: “Oh, I see. We’re sorry about that.” The next day, the club suddenly called to ask whether I could accept an offer right away as a substitute for another woman. I had plans, so I declined, and they responded, “Oh, I see. Okay then!”—yet another curt and rude response. Is that really how you ask someone for a favor...? lol So I’m starting to consider either looking for another club instead of Universe, or quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and finding another way to make money. I’d love to hear the club’s thoughts, as well as stories from members—men or women—about terrible papas or women you’ve encountered! Sorry for the long post!