The state of emergency is still in effect—are you all meeting your partners?

I’m Flaren, a male member! I meet other people all the time! You just need to look for other people as well. Maybe you trust your papa (male supporter) quite a bit. I feel like telling your current papa about the others is really just a way for you to feel a little more at ease psychologically. Most women probably don’t tell their parents about their activities, and this is the same—you can simply keep it to yourself. It’s nothing unusual.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well. Thank you for your question. > He says I’m the only woman he’s seeing (probably). I don’t understand why you would limit yourself to one person when he hasn’t even asked you to be exclusive. If you originally wanted to see only one person, then you should follow your principles and continue seeing that one person even if you run out of money or become poor—and let your debts pile up. But I don’t think most people take things that far. Unless he has asked you to be exclusive, I believe you should see multiple people and prepare for the risks. He says he can’t meet because of COVID, but there’s also a possibility that he’s actually getting bored and considering ending things. No one knows what the future holds. You should think for yourself about how you want to live so you won’t have any regrets. > I’m hesitating because he looks hurt whenever I say I might see other men. I don’t understand why you would tell him that you’re going to see other men. I think you should simply lie about that tactfully. > I’m thinking about telling the man I’m currently seeing again that I want to meet, even though I’d be pestering him. Since he has already told you he can’t meet, I think you should wait until next month before bringing it up again. However, if COVID is really the reason, it seems possible that you won’t be able to meet for about six months. > Should I meet the men who have been contacting me, or resume my club activities? I think you should resume your club activities while also meeting the men who have been contacting you. Even if you restart your club activities, that doesn’t mean you’ll immediately receive any offers. The men who have contacted you may also hesitate when it comes time to meet, wondering what to do about the allowance. So I think the best thing you can do right now is take both approaches. Otherwise, you may not be able to make your payments the month after next. > I wonder how everyone is communicating with their partners during the state of emergency. Most men are probably still meeting the women they like. Men who say they can’t meet because of COVID are probably either very cautious, or using this opportunity to narrow down the women they meet.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Why not explain your situation, including the payment issue, and ask that man to pay your allowance upfront? In any case, you should first have a proper conversation with him. You can decide whether to meet other men based on how that goes.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. In my case, I’m probably seeing both of them exclusively, so during both the previous and current states of emergency, things have continued as usual. Of course, I always confirm their health beforehand through our daily regular messages. I’m elderly, after all—and it would be a problem if I ended up being investigated as a close contact or something, right? (laughs) As for your question, if you’re important to each other and both want to continue seeing one another, I think she’ll come to meet you. It’s also an opportunity to see how serious she is about the relationship. Why not try sending her: “I’m in a tight spot the month after next—send me some money!”

I’m Kazu, a male member. Yes, I’m seeing someone. Regardless of the state of emergency, there’s a woman I’m temporarily not seeing because of her circumstances. We agreed on how long we wouldn’t meet, and I also told her not to hesitate to let me know if she ran into financial difficulty, since I would continue her allowance during that time. I don’t think you owe any loyalty to a man who isn’t giving you an allowance. If you still feel guilty about it, why not simply tell him, “I’m having a hard time because we can’t meet, so I’m going to see other men”? If you’re looking for someone new, I think it would be best to contact the men who have already reached out to you while also resuming your club activities. It’s better to have more options. As an aside, I actually encourage the women I date to have at least one other partner besides me. I can’t promise that I’ll never change my feelings and will continue seeing them forever, and if something happened to me, they’d be left in a difficult position. You should always have a backup for things you need. That said, I’d be sad if they ended up seeing some really lousy guy, while dating someone truly amazing might make me worry they’d leave me. So I have mixed feelings about it, too. I tell them that as well（笑）.

I’m Hikouki, a male member. It’s precisely at times like this that you can meet the people you want to see, and it can be an opportunity to deepen your relationship. I think you can judge whether he’s truly committed by whether you feel able to ask him for help and talk things through with him. As a man, it’s also gratifying to be relied on. If possible, consider taking a break from the club. If you feel he could become someone dependable, now may be the perfect time to grow closer and form a strong bond. Don’t hold back—be honest and talk things through. I don’t think you’ll lose anything by doing so. In an emergency, relationships often reach a crossroads: they either deepen or drift apart. I hope you’ll move forward in a way that leaves you with no regrets.

I’m Basil, a male member. Even after the state of emergency was declared, I’ve continued going on dates as usual. Since restaurants close early, I’ve been ordering room service more often, but it’s disappointing that the menus have gotten so limited. If you’re short on money, I think your only option is to meet the men who contact you. Even if you resume your club activities, there’s no guarantee you’ll receive an offer right away. You could explain your financial situation to your current papa, but there’s a risk he may think you’re simply asking him for money and end things. So why not secure another man first, then bring it up?

I’m in Seattle. There’s no need to stay loyal to someone who won’t meet you or give you an allowance. Look for someone else. Even now, you can meet plenty of people if you get creative. I’m still meeting people at the same pace as before.