Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
Thank you for your question.
If the terms are good, I think you should go ahead and accept. If they’re not quite what you hoped for, you could try negotiating for a higher allowance.
When people hear “STI testing,” they may imagine having to go to a hospital and undergo something painful. However, with the Partners Check recommended by Universe, a testing kit is mailed to you, so you can get tested without going to a hospital.
If you live with family and don’t want the kit delivered to your home, it seems that in Tokyo, you can simply take the kit to a hospital and use it there, making the process fairly easy.
You don’t need to show your health insurance card, so I believe you may be able to take the test under your club name. It also seems that using another alias may be fine.
You could tell your partner that you’d like to use an alias and give them that name. However, using your club name might be the more straightforward option.
(You might even be able to say that it ended up being your club name because it was arranged through Universe Crystal.)
Of course, nowhere does it explicitly say that aliases are allowed, and if you ask, they may tell you to use your real name. But there’s no way for them to know whether the name you provide is real or not.
Other than the name issue, I don’t see any real disadvantages. So if the male partner is willing to cover the testing fee, I think there are benefits to getting tested.
Partners Check page:
https://universe-club.jp/partners-check/std-check/
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
If you’re asking me, I definitely think it’s better to follow—or compromise on—the terms your papa wants.
Since it sounds like you have nothing to hide, getting tested for STIs should help you maintain a safe, worry-free relationship. It’s unlikely, but you could also catch something from your papa. Wouldn’t getting tested help ease your worries?
I’m Kazu, a male member.
He probably wants you to keep your relationship exclusive to him in order to reduce the risk of contracting an STI. Your papa (a male supporter) has no way of knowing whether you have other sexual partners besides him. He doesn’t seem overly controlling, and I have a good impression of him.
You can also notice quickly if you contract an STI, and getting tested regularly isn’t a disadvantage—in fact, I think it’s a good deal. Most people get tested eventually for things like a premarital health check when they get married anyway, so developing the habit of regular testing is by no means a bad thing. I also get tested anonymously several times a year. Since testing costs money, why not ask him to add the cost to your monthly allowance? Getting the testing paid for by your papa is a pretty good deal.
Since it seems you were the one who asked for a monthly arrangement, I think it’s perfectly normal for your papa to set terms in response. Trying to change the agreement in your favor without giving anything in return is, in my opinion, a rather entitled attitude.
