I’m a female member and an ordinary office worker in Tokyo. I joined about a year ago, and only recently discovered this anonymous Q&A box, which I’ve been enjoying reading.
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What caught my attention was the topic of allowances.
Some people say the going rate is 50, or that they receive less than the going rate, while others say they’ll pay 100 depending on the woman’s appeal, or that 100 is being too bold.
I understood that allowances vary widely from person to person, but I’ve never had any of the gentlemen I’ve met offer me 50 or 100.
I’ve met around 20 people so far, and the minimum has been 200+, with the most common amounts being 300 or 500. For overnight stays, the amount moves into a different digit.
I’m an ordinary woman in my early thirties—not particularly beautiful, just the kind of person you’d see anywhere.
The gentlemen have always handed it over so casually that I never really thought about it, but is this actually unusual? Is it because I’m in Tokyo?
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Reading things like this makes me want to do my best never to make the women who spend time with me, even though I can only offer a modest allowance, feel uncomfortable.
That said, rates in Tokyo seem a little higher, so I can’t help feeling a bit envious of people in other areas.
We’re competing in different arenas, so I doubt we’ll ever face each other—but let’s both keep holding our own and make the most of our respective arenas.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, answering as well.
Thanks for your question.
“20 minimum, with 30 or 50 being the most common range. For overnight stays, the amount goes up another digit.”
Huh? Could you be using a different unit?
Maybe you’re talking in terms of “K” (1,000)?
In most contexts, K would be the unit, but here people often use “man,” meaning 10,000 yen. So:
20K = ¥20,000
30K = ¥30,000
50K = ¥50,000
The discussions here have generally been along the lines of: “¥50,000 or ¥100,000 is asking a lot,” or “I’d be willing to pay up to ¥80,000.”
If you really do mean ¥300,000 or ¥500,000 per meeting, I’ve rarely heard of that. And I’ve hardly ever heard of overnight stays costing ¥1 million just because the amount goes up another digit.
Maybe you’re an exceptionally impressive person whom everyone would want to pay ¥300,000 or ¥500,000 for, but I don’t think there are many people like that.
If there are, though, it’s nice to dream.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
That’s incredible—the amounts are on a completely different level. But I can see it happening in Tokyo. That kind of world definitely exists. If every person who contacted you offered that much, I’d say the club’s profile was very well written and did a good job filtering people. Credit to the staff.
For women, the amount of allowance probably feels like a price tag put on them, and it’s true that, since it’s money, getting more is better. But there’s more to life than money. I hope you’ll decide on your own approach while also recognizing the other kinds of value involved—like being really compatible with someone or having unique experiences.
Taking it one step further, being successful without understanding why is actually pretty risky. You may be valued without knowing the reason, and then lose people’s interest without knowing why. If the wind changes, it can all disappear in an instant. You can either accept that’s just how things work and stay true to yourself, or start making an effort to keep your success going. I hope you can make a choice you won’t regret.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who was casually left on read by a woman like that.
There are gentlemen outside Tokyo whose spending is on a completely different level…
Some of them are in that bracket even for dinner-only dates, and the way they spend is unbelievable—more than 20 times what I do. When we met, we parted on a cheerful note, and she promptly replied to my LINE saying she’d love to see me again… only to casually leave me on read after that.
Every now and then, a girl will get back in touch after six months or so (once she’s run out of options, perhaps), but…
As for the person asking the question, the supply never seems to run out or dry up… I’m beaten.
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I’m Date ◎ Yume, a male member.
I think it’s probably because you’re in Tokyo.
I can’t tell what you’re like from your question alone, but judging from what you’ve written, you sound like a very attractive person.
As for the allowance, it’s something the person making the offer decides on after considering what they’re comfortable with, so only the person who made the offer would really know.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That’s incredible. I don’t think that’s normal.
I’d always thought that a three-figure pay-per-meeting allowance was reserved for celebrities who regularly appeared on TV. I’ve paid talents introduced to me outside Universe a three-figure allowance before, but at Universe, I’ve never met anyone who was as successful as those women.
It sounds like there’s a whole different Universe out there from the one I know. Apparently, I still have a lot to learn. I’ll keep doing my best.
That’s what I thought for a moment, but unless it was a relationship worth becoming a treasured memory in the afterlife, a three-figure pay-per-meeting allowance is beyond my means. I think I’ll continue getting along with the important women who are willing to engage with me at my current rate of five.
Come to think of it, I’ve also heard a woman say that when she turned down a relationship in Tokyo, the man kept raising the terms he offered until he proposed a two-figure allowance. She said she had wanted to turn him down, but the high allowance only made her feel more frightened, so she went home.
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