Different papas have asked me, “How much do you weigh now? Aren’t you too skinny?” and it really bothers me. If this were at a company, I could report it as sexual harassment. Yet if I gained weight, they’d probably drop me for not being cute anymore. Why do they ask how much I weigh when I lose weight? What should I do?

Aizawa, Sub-Chief at Universe Tokyo, will answer this as well. Why is the world like this? Is that a philosophical question? Why do men care about body shape? Why do men care about breast size? Many men come to dating clubs hoping for pseudo-romance, encounters with women they normally wouldn’t be able to meet, or simply the chance to meet ordinary women. So I think it’s natural that many of them are particular about body shape and breast size. The community is largely made up of people with those preferences. Of course, everyone has different tastes. There are men who like smaller breasts or curvier women, but since they’re in the minority, your chances of meeting them may be lower. Since you’ve entered that kind of world, I’m afraid that’s just the way it is. There are plenty of men out there who like smaller breasts, curvier women, or older women. If you don’t like this community, you could try looking for another one where people with those preferences gather. Personally, I find extremely thin women a little frightening, so they’re not really my type. Maybe it’s simply concern—like wondering whether they’re eating properly. There’s quite a difference between a thin man and a thin woman.

Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer this one as well. Thank you for your question. > Why do they ask things like, “How much will you weigh after you lose weight?” Because they’re concerned about your health. If a woman was already on the slim side—enough to make someone a little concerned, but still just barely okay—and then she loses more weight, she may become dangerously underweight. That naturally makes people worry about her health. If you lost weight for a man’s sake, he may also think that going that far wasn’t necessary and that you should pay more attention to your health. > What should I do? I think it’s fine as long as you stay within the healthy weight range. That range is actually fairly broad, so if you’re within it, and someone asks, “Have you lost weight?” you can simply say, “I have, but I’m still within the healthy weight range.” That will reassure men. For example, the healthy weight for someone who is 160 cm tall is 56.3 kg. That said, when most men see that number, they’ll probably decide it’s a little on the curvy side, so I’m starting to feel that men really are the cause—or even the root of the problem here. Since there’s a range for healthy weight, someone who is 160 cm tall would be considered within the healthy range at 47.5–63.9 kg. If you aim for the lower limit of 47.5 kg, but make sure not to go below it, you may be less likely to be asked, “How much will you weigh after losing weight?” And even if someone does ask, you can say, “I’m still within the healthy weight range,” and I think most men would accept that. I also looked it up, and apparently there are such things as “beauty weight” and “model weight.” For someone who is 160 cm tall: - Beauty weight: 48.6 kg - Model weight: 46.1 kg So model weight is below the healthy weight range. Still, men might accept a weight around that level, but if it gets much lower, they’ll start worrying that the woman is too thin. Occasionally, you see women whose ribs are clearly visible, but once it gets that far, it’s a health issue. Very few men actually find that beautiful. That said, putting the fundamental issue aside, men really do care a lot about women’s weight. That’s why some men even complain to the club if the weight listed on Universe differs by just a few kilograms from the weight a woman tells them. (There’s no point taking men seriously when they openly complain like that—it’s ridiculous—but you can tell that they do care about weight.) For that reason, Universe has scales available at each branch. Using one is optional, so you’re free to weigh yourself or not. But if your weight is measured during the interview, your profile will state that it was an actual measurement. Even if you gain weight afterward, it was still the actual measurement taken at the interview, so it won’t lead to complaints. > Why is the world like this? Because dating clubs operate on a system where men pay and make offers to women. If the system worked by having women pay and choose men, then your weight probably wouldn’t matter. Instead, men’s weight, height, body-fat percentage, and even the size of certain body parts（笑）would be listed on their profiles, and women would be able to choose what weight range they prefer. Naturally, it would also be a world where you could choose a man based on his face in his photos. That simply isn’t how things work yet. But as more wealthy women appear, I think that kind of world will eventually emerge. The term “mama-katsu” already exists, after all, so perhaps it will become a reality in about ten years.

I’m a male member, Fullerene! Have you perhaps lost quite a bit of weight since the photos were taken? If so, it might just slip out. Maybe you should have your photos retaken. (Sorry if I’m mistaken.) And of course, everyone has different preferences. Personally, I prefer smaller breasts—but nobody asked, I just wanted to say it loud and proud, lol. Anyway, one thing is clear: your papa (a male supporter) doesn’t realize just how much you hate it. Your wording is delicate, but it also has a quiet strength to it, so ideally, you’d send it exactly as written… but when you worry that it might damage the relationship, it’s understandable to hesitate. And the thought that even if you find more papas, you might just end up repeating the same thing all over again can feel discouraging too. In the end, you’re the one most bound by your weight. Other people aren’t bound by it, so they make thoughtless jokes. Let’s go to space. Then you won’t have to worry about your weight anymore. Once you’ve finished worrying about it for now, there’s always tomorrow.

I’m Taro, a male member. Since you seem like the type who can’t talk back even when someone does something you dislike, I get the feeling that men end up speaking to you more and more bluntly. You must have enough appeal as a woman to have multiple papas, but no matter how many times you change papas, you may end up in the same situation. You should say “I don’t like that” when something bothers you. Everyone has the right to live life on their own terms, and survival of the fittest is always justified. Even if someone gets upset and drops you, you’ll find someone new. Just keep trying until you can build the kind of relationship you want. That said, your writing has a unique atmosphere, so maybe you could just fully embrace being an introvert. You could channel that negative energy into writing novels or poetry, or upload songs to YouTube. As a spokesperson for girls with the same struggles, you might even attract a very devoted niche following.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Is this a troll with that many obvious things to pick apart?? As guys get older, we gradually lose our edge, and things don’t work as smoothly anymore. Without stimulation from a tiny waist, firm breasts or butt, sexy slender legs, and so on, we just end up going limp. So I can’t help but have certain expectations when it comes to looks… But still, there’s compensation involved—why is this world like that? So if you don’t like it, you don’t need to get involved. Maybe it’s just not for you…