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Jan 11, 2021 01:45
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Men I meet often look closely at my face and kindly tell me, “You’re cute.” The other day, one even said, “Your looks are Platinum.” But if they really think I’m cute, wouldn’t they avoid throwing around compliments like that so casually? What do you think? Are they trying to get me excited so they can keep the allowance as low as possible?
6 answers
Meg
Female
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光と影
Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
I still don’t know what “class” I’m in, but it feels nice to be told you’re cute, doesn’t it?
I don’t think there’s any need to read too much into it (*^^*)
Even after turning 40, when my papa (a male supporter) tells me:
“You’re cute. You really are cute!”
I think to myself, “Huh? No way—you’re just saying that again~ There are so many spots and wrinkles on my face!”
(I’m definitely overthinking it way too much, haha.)
But it’s funny.
When you keep hearing it, it gradually gives you confidence, and you start wanting to stay cute.
That’s how much a single word from your papa can affect you.
I think it’s best to simply accept the compliment graciously♪
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
> If he really thought she was cute, I don’t think he would casually tell her so.
Haha. You understand men very well.
Men are generally not good at expressing themselves—or rather, it’s normal for them not to openly say what they’re thinking. The fact that you understand that this is normal is pretty impressive.
And when an ordinary man says something like that, it’s only natural to be wary.
But this is a dating club. Some men may start out acting that way, then realize that things aren’t going well with the women they genuinely like. They may wonder what they’re doing wrong.
As a result, they may have learned that if they think someone is cute, they should say so.
In the first place, he chose you from among many women and made you an offer. He already thought you were cute, beautiful, or attractive before meeting you. So for a man who has learned to communicate properly, saying “you’re cute” is perfectly normal—and sincere. He’s simply trying to express his true feelings more openly.
As for the allowance, most men have already decided roughly how much they intend to offer before meeting. The majority don’t think they can lower it just because they called you cute. They simply want to get along and enjoy spending time together.
It’s good to be cautious, but I think you should be careful not to let the other person realize that you’re wary of him.
I’m glad to hear you’re receiving lots of offers.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
First, take a look at yourself in the mirror. If you think, “I’m cute!” too, try asking two or three male friends you know, “Do you think I’m cute?”
If two of them say, “Yeah, I think you’re cute too!” then I believe what that man told you is probably true.
Rather than worrying about it on your own, I think getting other people’s opinions will give you a more accurate answer. Just be careful not to take everything others say at face value.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I simply think that man may be awkward. As you felt, it’s a compliment that somehow doesn’t sit right.
I don’t think he said it to lower your allowance.
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Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I can’t bring myself to keep saying someone is cute unless I genuinely think she’s really cute…
With Gold members, it’s easier to choose based on personal preference without being swayed by their class, so sometimes I really feel, “She’s exactly my type,” and think, “I’m glad I made her an offer.”
Still, saying, “She’s Platinum class” feels kind of rude…
I’d rather hear, “She’s Black class,” or at least, “She’s better than Platinum”…
Other
I’m Taro, a male member.
Could it simply mean that you don’t photograph well?
Universe provides videos as well as photos, so there’s quite a lot of information available. Compared with other dating clubs, it’s very rare to be surprised when you meet someone in person.
As male members, many of us want to build a good relationship by expressing positive feelings, so we often compliment women on their appearance or other things. But given the possibility mentioned above, next time you might want to ask, “Was I different from what you expected based on my profile?”
I don’t think it’s very likely to be a strategy for negotiating the allowance. Comments that acknowledge the other person’s value, such as “You’re cute,” tend to push the price higher. Of course, there are tactics where someone praises you first and then brings you down, but that’s something to respond to only if they actually bring up lowering the price.