Sometimes I suddenly find myself thinking, “He really is an old man,” or “He’s so wrinkled,” and noticing all sorts of things about my male supporter. During intimacy, I start thinking deeply about aging, life and death, and life in general, and it can make me feel sad.
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I lose focus and tend to just lie there like a “tuna”…
I don’t want him to think, “This girl is totally passive,” but I’m not sure what counts as being a “tuna.” How much should I be moving to be considered okay…?
Thank you in advance.
I’m Meg, a female member.
I recommend trying a little eye-mask play.
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Sakura, you’re wonderful for making the man feel like a man.
Taro must be wonderful, inside and out (surely).
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> “Oh, he’s really an old man…” or “He’s so wrinkled…”
I’m an old man myself, so I know exactly what you mean. Even I think, “I sure was different when I was younger.”
Your question—and Taro’s answer—both make some very good points!
Everyone grows old, and everyone eventually dies. Keeping that in mind, I’ve decided to enjoy what I can do now! (Not just intimacy, of course… though that’s one part of it.)
I’m grateful that you’re willing to spend time with me.
Sorry I’m so wrinkled!
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
“Maguro” seems to refer to a woman who simply lies there without showing any reaction at all. So rather than how much she moves, I think what matters is whether she responds or not.
Your question doesn’t explain specifically what happens when you lose focus, but if you’re still able to respond at those times, I think you’re fine. If you become so sad that you end up just lying there, however, there’s a chance you may be seen as a “maguro.”
That said, someone considered a “maguro” shows no reaction from beginning to end. So if you respond at first and only stop responding partway through, I don’t think you’d necessarily be seen that way—though it may also depend on how long it lasts.
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I’m Fullerene, a male member!
I see—so things like that happen too.
I don’t think “your body doesn’t move” necessarily means you’re just lying there passively. This isn’t a sex service, after all. If the man can tell that you’re letting yourself surrender to the pleasure—even if it’s only an act—I don’t think he’ll see you that way. There’s probably no need to overreact.
That said, while it’s understandable that the person asking the question feels sad, is it really enough just to make sure she isn’t seen as being passive?
Personally, I’d rather hear about the part where she felt sad like that. Though I’m sure she’d say, “Just hurry up and finish already,” haha.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Thank you for the painfully relatable question (sob).
Sorry, but could you please not worry about appearances?
There’s a real person behind this, so please love that person properly.
Even if it’s only for that moment.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who gets asked by papa-katsu girls, “Are you in your thirties or something?” while my daughter tells me, “You look 80—you’re an old man, so all you can do now is die.”
Movement and responsiveness are two different things, so it’s fine to stay a dead fish.
Besides, if you can’t even imagine being with a man you like—or with someone else—then that’s impossible too, right?
Since this is papa-katsu, if you’re uncomfortable with someone as much older as a papa, you don’t have to force yourself to continue.
P.S. My wife says, “How old are you? Are you in kindergarten?” Oh, wait, that’s not it—“Are you a baby?! Even a two-year-old is better than you…”
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