I often see female members comment that they don’t care about their partner’s appearance at all. Does this usually mean:
1) They’re being humble because they don’t think highly of their own appearance;
2) Regardless of their own looks, they’re trying to reassure male members who feel self-conscious about their appearance by saying, “I’m fine with it”; or
3) Something else?
Which is most common?
Personally, everyone has different preferences when it comes to appearance, so I sometimes feel it would be better if they mentioned at least a little about their type, aside from simply saying they value cleanliness. I don’t really want to meet someone who says they don’t care about appearance at all.
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
If you don’t want to meet someone, you simply don’t have to. You can never truly know what another person is thinking—only they do. Worrying about things like that is just a waste of time.
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Fulleren here, a male member!
I can’t say I don’t understand how you feel, but honestly, I can only envy you—I bet you really knew how to charm the ladies when you were younger (that’s an old-fashioned expression, haha).
I think option 2 is probably the most common, but as you mentioned, it might be better to have a preferred type.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I get how you feel (lol). But you probably should’ve thought a little more from the women’s perspective before writing that.
If you want my answer, I’d say 2) applies to most of them.
From a woman’s point of view, it’s probably more like: “Unlike working at a hostess club, I can choose who I meet, and they’re not going to be that strict, so it’ll be fine. Bring on the comb-over, beer belly, and saggy under-eyes!” Since anyone other than Type E isn’t here looking for a romantic connection, they’re probably coming into it prepared for that.
The practical answer is simple: if you don’t like women like that, don’t make them an offer. If you take your time looking, you’ll find quite a few women who mention their own preferences and type, so just make offers to them.
Once you’ve made an offer, give it your all. That’s youth.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I don’t expect much in terms of a man’s looks. My expectations lie elsewhere.
That said, if I take a quick look at a woman’s photos and profile and think, “Yeah, I can see her saying something like that,” I suppose the chances are higher（笑）
I’m getting up there in age, my looks are what they are, and my finances are nothing special either—but I find myself wanting to look after women like that.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Since I don’t think this is something they ask during interviews, why not make offers to as many women as possible who write, “I don’t care about a partner’s appearance at all,” and conduct your own little survey? Asking about it right away would probably put them off, and they likely wouldn’t tell you how they really feel, so it sounds like it would be quite a task.
I had always assumed that people use dating clubs to skip over all those hurdles—whether someone matches their physical preferences, whether their personalities and interests click, the worry that being too accommodating too quickly might give a man the wrong idea, and so on.
If a man takes good enough care of a woman, including providing a sufficient allowance, I think she can come to see him as a viable option. Even when people meet outside a dating club, it’s fairly common for someone to think, “They weren’t my type at first, but after dating them, I started to find them attractive.”
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Please understand that women may not actually want to be intimate with some random man, even for hundreds of millions of yen, but due to various circumstances, they may feel forced to take the plunge and muster the courage to comment.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
> I don’t really want to meet someone who says she doesn’t care about looks at all.
You should take a look in the mirror.
Women who care about appearance aren’t going to choose you.
Before you can decide that you don’t want to meet them, the women will already have turned you down. In fact, many women say they would rather not meet anyone over 30.
Deep down, women want to be with attractive men. Women’s preference for good-looking, same-age men is practically instinctive.
It may even be tied to the very essence of life—the need to pass on superior genes.
So why can you still meet them?
Because there’s an allowance involved.
Don’t get that part wrong.
Of course, some women prioritize personality, and some are genuinely kind.
Don’t forget that women who kindly say they don’t care about looks may simply be trying to put you at ease.
You should also remember that women who don’t care about appearance are often more likely to be kind.
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