I’ve gone on several dates with a man I was introduced to, including an adult relationship. We have fun every time, and I feel like he likes me, but he keeps pressuring me to take a break from the club. I want to continue both my club membership and my relationship with him, but honestly, I’m at a loss. Have any female members or staff here ever been told something like this? I’d appreciate any advice on how best to handle the situation.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. Here’s another painfully clueless male member story, lol. The club has a “hide” feature. In fact, you can even hide your profile from specific people only. So apparently, he doesn’t realize how pointless it is to say, “I want you to take a break from the club.” What a shame. So just pass the question along to the club as written, and they’ll take care of it. Don’t worry.

Maezawa from the president’s office here to answer as well. Thank you for your question. It’s simple: just talk to the staff about it directly. That way, your profile will only be hidden from that particular man, so you can say that you’ve taken a leave of absence. Your male friends at the club may still be able to see it, though, so you could handle it like this: “I was told by someone I know that I’m still registered.” “I asked the club to put my account on hold, but… I’m not sure why this happened, so I’ll contact the club again.” “You didn’t really ask them, did you? Do you have any proof?” “It was over the phone, so I don’t have proof, but I did ask them.” You could even say: “If you don’t believe me, then I guess we should break up. Goodbye.” Incidentally, men are prohibited from pressuring women to withdraw from the club, but pressuring someone to take a leave of absence? That’s certainly a male member who knows how to act without technically violating the rules. Still, if withdrawing is prohibited, you’d think it would be obvious that pressuring a woman to take a leave of absence would also be prohibited by analogy. Or is he trying to argue over whether the rule is an exhaustive list? Quite a guy. (Though I wish he’d stop—it’s such a hassle（笑）)

Hirakawa from Universe Tokyo here as well. Thank you for your question. You’re free to choose whether to take a break from or leave the club, so if you’re currently having trouble with this situation, please feel free to consult the club staff. Whenever you have time, we look forward to hearing from you at your branch.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Forcing a woman to withdraw from the club violates the membership rules, but come to think of it, the rules don’t say anything about taking a leave of absence... If you report the violation to the club, your relationship with this man will probably end. So, if you want to continue with both the club and the man, option ① would be to have the man hidden from your profile. However, with this method, your profile will still be visible to other male members, so he might realize that you lied. To reduce the number of male members who can view your profile, option ② would be to have your profile made secret. However, limiting the number of men who can see your profile will probably lead to fewer offers. Also, secret profiles can only receive offers from black-tier male members, which will likely reduce your offers even further. So, although it may be a hassle, I think the safest approach is option ③: explain that the allowance you receive from this man isn’t enough to provide the support you need. He might increase the allowance or meet with you more often. He might also give up on pressuring you to take a leave of absence. Or he might decide that he doesn’t want to be with someone who also meets other men and walk away. If he does leave, it simply means that your important relationship terms—whether you remain registered with the club—don’t match, so I think you’ll have to accept it. The options I can think of are ① through ③. Since I don’t know how much allowance you’re receiving from this man, trying option ③ to improve the terms may be worth considering. Personally, if a man wants to restrict the woman he’s seeing, I think he should offer terms that are worth it.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. I don’t like men who lack confidence, either. There are plenty of things both men and women don’t want to hear from the other person, though… If you talk to the staff, they may be able to suggest a solution. That probably wouldn’t address the root of the problem, however, so it may be best to wait for a man who’s closer to what you’re looking for.