What makes someone think, “She probably has a papa (a male supporter)”?
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I’ve been registered with a club for several years and have gone on more than 20 dates, but recently, a guy around my age whom I was meeting for the first time told me I probably had a papa.
I was surprised because no one had ever said that to me before. I don’t particularly show off wearing high-end brands, so why would he say that when we’d only just met?
Later, I mentioned in conversation that I like older men, but he kept saying that I probably had a papa, so I’m curious what made him get that impression.
Akai from Universe Club’s Tokyo branch here. I’ll answer as well.
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That man is impressive!
Honestly, it’s difficult for me to tell whether a woman who comes in for an interview is doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
The term “papa-katsu” is popular right now, so he may have certain preconceptions.
If that’s the case, even small things—like being good at conversation or handling herself well—might lead him to assume she’s involved in papa-katsu. So I don’t think you can really tell from someone’s words or behavior whether she has experience with it.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Maybe he sensed something old-fashioned in the way you spoke or acted. Did you happen to say something like, “That’s so now!”? “○○ now” is more of a Heisei-era thing, but “nowi” is distinctly Showa-era.
There was a young girl who always picked old songs at karaoke, and I once teased her in a similar way.
Oh, but this was the first time anyone had said that to you. In that case, maybe you had a certain grown-up air about you—calm and composed—that made the guy feel a little defeated.
If it happened three or four times in a row, that would be one thing, but if it was just one person, I’d say the issue was probably with him.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
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That man probably thinks that almost every woman is doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). He’s likely lost any real sense of criteria and says it to every woman he can have a conversation with.
If she says she isn’t, he’ll probably say something like, “I got the wrong idea because you’re so kind to everyone. You must be popular.”
And if she says she is, he’ll probably turn it into something like, “I could just tell.”
I don’t think there’s anything specific about you that made him say it, so I don’t think you need to worry about it.
It also reminds me of how a fortune-teller tells someone, “I see water,” and the other person remembers some place where there was water and responds, “There is! How did you know?”
In Japan, most people have probably had water somewhere nearby.
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For Christmas presents, I ask what they want first and then get it for them.
I think it simply means they look attractive enough to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m with Papuwa on this one!
I think it’s about the overall vibe, too.
Maybe they’re comparing the way someone talks with people their own age—their manner of speaking and listening, the topics they bring up—as well as their gestures and mannerisms.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
If it came from a man around your age, I’d take it as an offhand comment. He probably just meant that you looked sexy or stylish—something along those lines.
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