Lately, the girl I’m seeing has started suddenly asking, “Let’s stay overnight tonight!” during our dates—even on weekdays when I haven’t brought anything for an overnight stay. I actually welcome it since I can relax, and she doesn’t ask for a higher allowance just because we’re staying overnight. However, I’m married, so it’s getting harder to come up with excuses when plans suddenly change.
Before COVID, I could say that I’d suddenly been called away on a business trip to Tokyo or somewhere else, but that excuse is difficult to use these days.
If you have any good excuses, please let me know.
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Thanks for your question.
I think it would be fine to book the room for an overnight stay, while you go home yourself.
She may want you to stay through the night because she feels lonely, so she might ask you to stay with her. Even then, you could explain that you really have to leave tonight and let her stay by herself. It might turn into one of those situations where she says, “It was surprisingly comfortable.”
If that happens, it may become easier for you to leave the next time as well.
If you also want to stay overnight and need an excuse, though, I imagine it would be pretty difficult. Maybe you could say that the system had a problem and you ended up working late, so since you missed the last train, you decided to stay at an internet café near the office.
I feel like lies tend to get found out, so I think it would be better for you to go home.
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I’m the male member Fullerene!
Coming home in the middle of the night and heading back early in the morning seems like a good way to make it look like you stayed over—but you want to be gone all night, right?
So, as for ideas you could carry out on your own…
〇 Say you’ve started working night security to gain some real-world experience, and suddenly got called in for a shift
(A bread factory would work too.)
〇 Say you’re conducting regular fixed-point observations of people staying overnight at manga cafés as part of a survey on economic trends, employment, or poverty.
How about presenting it as though you work nights to gather firsthand information?
Not that it matters, but it’s kind of cute when a man says he’s staying over, haha.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
A lie may get you through the moment, but it becomes a hassle if you’re found out. It’s high risk and low reward, so it’s better not to tell pointless lies.
If you’re married, wouldn’t it be better to simply be upfront about that from the start, since some people may not be okay with it?
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I completely understand how you feel. I really do. I ended up giving up on a hot-spring overnight stay too.
When I think about the risk of prioritizing what I want now and ultimately causing problems for my activities, I feel it’s probably safest to keep things within what I can handle for the time being. That’s the choice I made.
Sorry I couldn’t give you a good excuse.
P.S. I misunderstood—you meant a sudden overnight stay. I’ve been in that situation too. I’d say, “No, I’m heading home lol,” pay for the hotel, and leave first.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Haha! I’m jealous too!
I can’t think of any good ideas for a question that makes me jealous, so you’ll have to come up with one yourself（笑）
Sorry this doesn’t really answer your question!
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When I asked my wife, “Do you want a Christmas present?” she immediately started repeating, “Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,” like a machine gun. This is Paper Airplane, a male member.
I’m jealous… It’s the season for fun overnight stays.
Would sneaking out late at night and coming back in the morning be too difficult?
If you said you went drinking with friends and ended up falling asleep in a friend’s car or something, that would be hard to pull off this time of year, wouldn’t it?
P.S. One tip for not getting caught: start a business for that purpose, and make it part of your normal routine so that it wouldn’t seem strange for you to be working during those hours. If you keep up the act in your everyday life and avoid any noticeable changes, your usual rhythm and routine won’t change.
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